The nice ones bore me but the mean ones ... i dont know. I try so hard to please them, to prove to them that I'm not too stupid or slutty or whiny. The meaner they are the harder i fall for them. I'm 28 and know that should know better but i can't stop.
2006-11-30 05:38:06 · 17 answers · asked by Ruth Ann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, maybe you should talk to someone, like a therapist. There may be a good reason you go after a man like this. I don't know about how you were raised, but it seems that we that were raised without fathers tend to go after men like that. There is more to it than what I'm saying but that is basically it. I hope you find what you are looking for and can be happy someday. Take care.
2006-11-30 05:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey ... that's true sometimes i think like that ,, what u donot easily get is what u always want ... is not that right?
but to be realisic the mean with u will break u down and do all the harm to u and will not respect u being afemale and will not make u but miserable ... and believe me i used to like those but as much as i see examples and what mean man could do .. made me totally change my mind totally into the other directions ... each woman look for some one make her life better and better and this will not be acheived with this type of men ... believe me all u can get is insults and maybe getting beaten and maybe knowing women on u and that what each woman does not want .. beleive me if u look for the far future do not pick those they will make u miserable ... and see any example u will see that all what iam saying is totally right ... god bless u and try to get this idea away from ur head for ur own good
2006-11-30 13:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by doctora didi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is classic. Do u know how long it took me to figure that I have to be an *** hole to get more chicks? Forever!! but now i know this and I am meaner than most guys. Its simply that girls like a good challenge. Its not just u its every woman
2006-11-30 13:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by TONY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found in my own personal life, that I was attracted to the same kind of men. I've always had low self-esteem and thought I didn't deserve to be treated good. So I found myself attracted to men who would treat me like s**t. But the thing is, I do deserve to be treated right and so do you. I finally found someone who treats me with respect and love. You can find it too. Be strong and good luck.
2006-11-30 13:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like a bad boy and the posibility of training him.
You should know better but yet you don't, find a nice guy that has balls, they are rare but if you find one he'll put up the fight enough to keep you interested while still being nice to you
2006-11-30 13:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you have something to prove, then this is not the right person for you. Because the right one would appreciate you for who you are and not for who you pretend to be.
But we always chase what's not right for us, it's like some kind of sickness :)) and we're not content with what we have and want more. But that's normal actually
So just don't try to please them, they should do that!
;))
2006-11-30 13:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find myself doing the same thing sometimes. I get scared of guys that are nice to me and chase the ones that are harder to get.. I dunno. Some girls' human nature? I also don't have low self esteem. It just happens. o_O I guess I have no explanation. Sorry XD but you'll have to settle for SOMEONE eventually. The older you get the harder it'll be to get someone decent, anyways =\
2006-11-30 13:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to reevaluate yourself, you tend to like these men because they find something wrong with you which means you think what they find wrong is true. You need to have self confidence in yourself first before you can find the right man....
2006-11-30 13:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by smartiebc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because most women have low self-images. You have to realize that any guy who doesn't treat you with respect doesn't deserve you. Don't let yourself be put down by any guy.
2006-11-30 13:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
souds like you have low self esteem and not much self worth if you let guys treat you like crap and also sounds like you craving for attention and someone's approval by trying to please men try being happy with yourself before you get into any more bad relationships
2006-11-30 13:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by tesla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋