if your daughter was 14 and came home with a hickie on her neck what would you do?
2006-11-30 05:14:45 · 42 answers · asked by Brtny 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh no, see daddys' little girl.. we'd have a serious dissussion about 14 bein to young and then. I'd want to meet the boy cuz dating isn't an option. I refuse to be a daytime talk show statistic. Put the fear of God into that little boy about my daughter..
2006-11-30 06:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? talk to her. Avoid yelling and screaming because you will only succeed in pushing her away. By all means do not be judgemental. Explain to her that hickies may be seen as a trophy by some but for the most part it just makes her look like she is easy. Ask her if that is what she wants people to think about her.She will probably answer i don't care what other people think, that is a total load of crap because she is a teenager!!!Also i would explain that once she gets this kind of reputation she will never really get away from it even though it is not true and that she will probably only attract scum instead of someone who could really care for her.
It is too late now to stop the dating but i would definitely set some baoundaries and limits ie: no being alone ANYWHERE.days and times she can see him
most of all keep the lines of communication open with her. be prepared to hear things you as a parent are not ready for. Make sure she is well schooled in stds, birth control and whethter or not she is really ready to go further. and then all you can do is hope that when it comes down to it she makes the right decsion.
good luck i really know what you are going through
2006-11-30 06:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are posting here I am assuming you are a caring mother who loves her daughter. 14 is such a delicate age. Try doing a special activity with your daughter at least once a week were the two of you can relax and just chat about life. She will be more willing to open up about private things, like sex and relationships then. Try not to be mad, or scared because its not abnormal. Teach her to respect herself by telling her what a hicky represents. Punishment may be in order, but try not to be too harsh, after all she is growing. That can be scary, but it's ok.
2006-11-30 05:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you haven't had "the talk" yet, now's the time. Ask who gave it to her. If it was another kid, then they're probably just finding out about this stuff. Let her know that's ok, but advise her that getting hickies isn't the best idea since, right or wrong, it'll give a bad impression of her to others.
2006-11-30 05:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by combat_rock_1981 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm 22 now but when i was 14 i came home with a hickey on my neck and my mom was mad at first but then she talk about it with me. so if i were you i would do what my mom did, tell her how you feel but also ask her questions, but not nagging questions. Ask her who gave it to her, is this her boyfriend, etc. and let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. My point is that punishing her or getting mad at her wont do anything but make her not want to be open with you, and it wont stop her from doing it again it will just make her better at hiding them. Let her know that in the future you will be there if she has any questions or just wants to talk.
2006-11-30 14:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't punish her, I would talk to her about it. You can't give her trouble for doing something that comes naturally at that age. And a hickie isn't always representative of something more, which is why you should talk to her. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your daughter, but talking to her about it is definitely more productive than punishing her.
2006-11-30 05:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about and explain to her that hickies are very disrespectfull and people will look down on her and if she has got a hickie you need to have a talk to her about sex....you should even get her the cd by lyfe jennings with the song S.E.X on it....its a very good song and made me wish i was still a virgin! Good luck I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-30 05:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I think I would HELP her put make-up on it so her father wouldn't see it!!! Just kidding...It's hard to imagine my baby (she's 6) coming home with hickies in a few more years...I would probably overreact and immediately put her on birth control...I'm sure by then we would have had "the talk"
Good luck with that...
2006-11-30 05:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a deeper discussion about her activity on why is there a hicky and letting her know those are not proper on a 14 year old. (Or even an adult...).
2006-11-30 10:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one lock her in her room n throw away the key ... lol no really i'd sit down n have the sex talk n ask her if she wants to go on birth control ... I know you really dont want to tell her it's ok to have sex but it's better then finding out in the next year or so that you're goin to be a grandma and your baby is still a baby. I mena you can set all the rules you want but by 14 they really wont listen unless they want to ... i know my cousin is 13 and the same issue just came up
2006-11-30 05:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by evillama4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋