My nephew is part of our daily lives, he and my son are very close now. My son enjoys his company. This incident happened about 10 years ago. My son is now 15 and nephew is 20. Our families are extremely close. My sister and nephew know nothing about CPS evaluating my son. They dont even know that I know this happened. This is extremely difficult because our families are so close. Please give me your input on this.
2006-11-30 05:10:39 · 12 answers · asked by Mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My nephew is part of our daily lives. This incident happened 10 yrs ago. My son is now 15 & nephew is 20. My nephew leads a normal life now. He's not a pervert or such. They are extremely close, they hang out all the time. Our families are tight and there's never been sexual abuse in my family that I know of. A trip to the ER was how all this surfaced....CPS became involved and ulitmately the state. My son has been evaluated by CPS (which my sister or nephew know nothing about). And now I've been told it's up to higher authorities to decide if charges will be filed. I did not know anything about the abuse until recently. For the record, my son is in counseling. My wants would be for no charges to filed since they were both kids and just put this behind us. Our families are VERY close and would hate to put this burden on my entire family. I'm anxiously waiting for answers from authorities on
how all this will end. I was just wondering if someone has any real input on this.
2006-11-30 06:03:44 · update #1
i think that you should contact family services and ask them about it. who better to ask? but if things are okay now, i would recommend counseling for your son, and encourage the sister to take the cousin to counseling. as a few others listed here, this is a cycle. a child this young isnt going to come up with this stuff on his own. someone else in the family or a close outsider is responsible for this. your nephew probably remembers who did it to him, i would find a way to find out from him, then charges can be filed, depending on what state you are in. does anyone else in the family know about this occurring? you may have to do something extremely difficult, and risky; ask the aunt about it. either way, i think they should be in counseling. even that young can leave horrible fresh emotional scars on a child.
2006-11-30 05:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by :*:epiphany:*: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Canada charges could not be filed against a 10 year old. You might wonder how it is that a ten year old would do something like that. Usually it is because they are being abused themselves. It is hard to fully blame the ten year old because at that age he is not old or mature enough to understand the ramifications of his actions. (he knows things are right or wrong only because people tell him so) Did you know this way back when it happened? It should have been dealt with then. Your nephew might have been being molested as well and was acting out what was being done to him. (Is he normal now?)
2006-11-30 05:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your nephew was molesting your son at such a young age, that sounds like he himself was being molested, or had been in the past. That kind of behavior doesn't occur to most kids unless they've been introduced to it - I'd look at who was around your nephew at that time, and what was going on.
2006-11-30 05:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe, but they were so young, maybe your nephew was being touched by someone, because kids don't just do those things, it's like a domino affect, untill someone ends it. Pray on that and have someone pray over your son to bind that spirit of lust and perversness off your son and nephew too. See if your nephew is willing to admit that he did it and apologize and get help along with your son. God Bless you and your family.
2006-11-30 05:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by mskash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree which you're able to touch a counselor approximately this. First, on your man or woman son. i do no longer think of you are able to request counseling on your nephew until eventually you have custody. it particularly is his mom's job, and it does not sound like your sister sees the desire. yet. you will could understand that it's not the youngsters who're in threat of stepping into worry with the government; in case you do no longer touch a counselor (play therapist), who will then look at the region and touch the government (social centers) if she detects a difficulty, then you definitely are held to blame for no longer reporting skill abusive habit. Likewise, in case your sister is made attentive to skill abuse and does no longer something, she would be held to blame. that isn't a topic which could be prevented. apparently, it is your nephew who's reacting as though he have been the abused and not your son. you will decidely could debate his reaction with the counselor and discover out what is going on. it particularly is that what occurred in the tub tub exchange into merely a ingredient of discovery on your man or woman son's area, however a similar incidence brought about a much extra extreme reaction on your nephew. you're splendid to maintain the lads separated from destiny overnighters until eventually you have discovered extra solutions to this. it particularly is comforting to understand that the counselor would be the single to "blow the whistle" if any whistles desire blowing (which it feels like is mandatory, fairly on your nephew's behalf), and which you will shield your self on your sister throughout the time of the movements of a worrying be certain. the actuality that your nephew exchange into residing with you rather of your sister is a ingredient of pastime, fairly to the counselor and social centers, so be arranged for those questions. It seems such as you attempt to do the splendid factor for each man or woman here. in specific circumstances the "impressive factor" is likewise the "no longer common factor." What to tell your son? Ask the play therapist (baby's counselor) once you touch her. i'm specific she would have a number of techniques. she will understand that this would be a mushy difficulty, fairly handling youthful infants, and would have the potential to provide you this variety of communications that are superb proper on your son. be certain to remind her that it is your nephew and not your son who's the extra curiously traumatized here. she will understand a thank you to attitude the priority on your son without introducing pointless trauma. Bless you for this journey you're stepping into. you have my prayers.
2016-10-04 13:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody molested your nephew. in turn unfortuneally your son was molested. what your nephew needed 5 years ago was serious psycholical help for children that have been molested who molested your nephew? press charges aginst that sicko not your nephew talk to your sister and get him te help he needs your child should also be counsiled as well so your son does not molest in the future
2006-11-30 05:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by linita k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should forget about filing charges. Get them both some counseling, and put this behind you.
2006-11-30 05:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes did you just find out? youre close after this? Keep him away from the creep and call the cops and then closeness is gone but protect your child Yesterday
2006-11-30 05:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is only a statute of limitations on a sexual offense on a minor from the date that they remember it happening. i think you have 5 yrs from the date that you find out about it.♠
2006-11-30 05:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't file charges before why do it now? What has changed?
2006-11-30 05:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by roxanne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋