Any very shy people out there???????????

Question

How bad is your shyness?
I always avoid social situations, even though talking to people helps me to feel better about myself. I don't really have any friends outside of my family. I've been interested in girls for 8 years (since intermediate school) but have never even asked a girl out, let alone been on a date.
How do you deal with your shyness?
Is there any hope for me to change? (I'm already 20, going to school, and have been this way my whole life)
I'm afraid that it may be too late for me to develop social skills and the ability to form relationships of any kind.

I'm not kidding when I say I have NO friends, so don't assume that I'm exaggerating when I say that.

Answer 1

I'm shy too but not to the point where i don' t have any friends outside my family. i'm shy when it comes to expressing my feelings, speaking in front of crowds, meeting new people (sometimes) There is hope for u to change u just need to get more confidence in urself. try buying some different clothes go to abercrombie & fitch , marshalls, aj wright, footlocker, champs, bobs..etc. sometimes wearing clothes that make u feel good helps u feel more confident. get a nice hair cut and shape up u'll be surprise at the difference changing ur hair can make. try to make eye contact with ppl and smile at them in a subtle way. when ur around ppl and they talk join in if it's general conversation or u can just comment on things like it's so cold in here or ask questions like what page did we have to read?...etc if u start talking to ppl they will approach u being quiet is probably turning them off because they think ur standoffish so start talking more or just saying hi, goodmorning, or ask how r u today? it can make a difference.

Answer 2

it's never too late to come out of your shyness and develop social skills. i'm 25, was very shy my whole life and just recently started coming out of my shell 5 or 6 months ago. i never went out, avoided any kind of social gatherings like the plague, even ones that involved my family. i would do anything to avoid having to speak in front of a group. i never ever wanted to be the center of attention.

i think that most of it had to do with a fear of being liked and accepted. but now that i'm a lot older and more confident in myself, a lot of that fear of being accepted has dissipated. so perhaps you'll get better at it as you grow older like i did. you also have to remember that if you're lonely and want friends, you're not going to be able to fix that if you avoid social situations. you have to get out there and take risks. i bascially started forcing myself into social situations and it's funny because once i did that it wasn't that bad! at least no where near as bad i kept envisioning it to be. people didn't think i was as weird as i thought they would, which gave me a little bit of confidence. i just kept building on that. don't get me wrong tho. i'm nowhere near being an outgoing, fearless person.

Answer 3

I am the same way well I have some friends but don't talk to many people and I have never been on a date let alone have a boyfriend! But don't worry you will find someone that likes you the way you are

Answer 4

I'm shy, but i'm not very shy. It's never too late to come out of your shell. It took me awhile to get out of being really shy. I was just like you not talking to anyone at all. I think the way you deal with it is be confident in yourself.

I hope I help

Good Luck

Answer 5

sice ur 20 u can take college classes
take a class for social skills and when there u can find friends and maybe that special someone

Answer 6

It takes me awhile to open up to people. I HATE public speaking, yet I don't mind making a fool of myself in front of total strangers. It just takes grtting to know somebody-after awhile you start to relax.