My dad is insisting that I WRITE down a Life plan, and figure out ways of getting to where I want to be. I think its pretty stupid to write it down. I have my goals, and know what I need to get there. He wants all the details of acheieving a goal. I mean isnt that ridiculous, I might be dead tommorrow, things change all the time. Plans are just that plans, cant really do anything about the reality. Im really pissed off over this. he's threatening to kick me out the house, if dont have it soon. I dont really know where to begin, I dont have life experience, I am asking for his help in making one, but he refuses he says its my responsibility. How do people in their 20 figure out what they do in life? I want to do a lot!
2006-11-30 04:56:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Then write it! This is not a big request. It will give you the opportunity to seriously think about where you want to be in 1 year, 5 years ... and it may reassure your Dad that you do respect your parents and appreciate what they are doing for you. You sound like a very selfish young man. Grow up. If you are in college, get loans, get a part time job ... be someone.
2006-11-30 05:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK dad cant help you only you know where you are going if 20 he wants to see you have drive so make him happy write down i would like to be in college by 22 or if not want to work at Jim and Joe's and learn business by22 and become mgr by24 no offense he has raised you this is his time but he wants to help you get on your feet you can see that and goals change all thru life people change jobs change dreams but what is it gonna do just to show him in black and white that you are thinking about tomorrow and not free loading when is it your dads time sorry if i sound hateful
2006-11-30 05:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek Professional help from a counselor what I'm going to tell you is my opinion just to answer your questions you say 2 years ago you were happy, is it because your parents were together? if so... have you ever think about them? maybe 2 years ago they were not happy and that is the reason why they split would you rather have them together not liking each other? ( just like you feel about your dad at this moment is maybe how your mother felt then) I was a teen too and I went through that stage too but now I have children too and I have realized about then when I thought everything my parents did was wrong was actually good for me just remember no parents will do anything to harm their children all they want is to have the best children in the world, the smarter, the most obedient and the happiest but is not easy to be a parent and when something goes wrong some parents give up but sometimes teens don't think about their parents happines either and they don't do anything to change their behavior and respect their parents for all the sacrifice they have to do for their children it seems too me like you are a very intelligent person looking for an answer to find happines but you will not find the answer here because happines is inside of you you have to like yourself and others you will find a friend that will make you see thing diferent love and respect your parents, life is beautiful look at everything around you what can you do to change things you dont like? the only way to change the world is changing yourself first being positive at all times eat well, and don't panic about things that your hear around your home they are product of your imagination because you are afraid read, listen to music focus on something that you enjoy doing I hope you feel better, you deserve a better life look for friends at school they will help you too
2016-05-23 05:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda see what ur dad is telling you. but ur still young even at 20.at this age. ur still discovering ur-self..Life is full of mysteries...Ideas..ect....don't take this to heart...it's really hard to decide what you want to be at this age. Just take some time and write down what you think you would like to do or become by the age of 30...humor him ok??? you can do this for ur dad.. I hope that you at least have a job and somewhat pulling some weight in the house..that might help ur dad ease up a bit. if all else fails..just remember this....YOU CAN MAKE ALL THE PLANS IN THE WORLD YOU WOULD LIKE..BUT, GOD HAS THE FINAL SAY OVER IT..HE CREATED YOU AND HE AND HE ONLY HAS THOSE PLANS....GOODLUCK & GOD BLESS.....
2006-11-30 05:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live at home and just lay around all the time, I can see where he would have issues. My son is 21 and came back home after college. He can't afford a place of his own right now. But he knows if he is there, he pays his own bills. He's not getting a free ride. The only thing we provide for him other than a roof over his head is his food.
2006-11-30 05:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in your 20's? Write it down or get your own place to live. I can't say as I blame your dad for expecting you to know what you want to do with your life and how you are going to do it.
Really this isn't a hard assignment so just do it or get out. If you get out and do something with your life your dad will think you are serious about accomplishing something with your life.
2006-11-30 05:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just make him satisfied. Want me to help you type up a Life plan? Whats your yahoo messanger screen name? or just e-mail me? Tell me what you are majoring in at school? Or what kind of job you are looking for? What are you hobbies?What do you like to do in your free time? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Even though you dont end up doing what your wrote. Plans do change. but at least you already wrote the plan your dad wanted. Just because you write it doesn't mean it DEFINETLY HAS TO HAPPEN. if you want to e-mail me reply to this. And give me your e-mail when you reply to me. then ill help you write your Life plan.
2006-11-30 05:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa there young fella;; take a deep breath and think, your dad wants you to succeed in life, writing down a plan is a great idea , this way you can see on paper what you want and how you are going to get there,,, you can always change your plan, but Please take time and do your homework for life, believe me i have made alot of bad mistakes in my twenties and it takes alot more time to get back on track..
2006-11-30 05:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by mark j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP WHINING!!! and FOCUS!....That is what your Dad is trying to make you do. Define a goal and the way to get there will be apparent. Dad is doing you a favor - pay attention...
BTW you are in your 20's and living at home? JEEEZ - no wonder your Dad is on your a5s.... move out and get on with life.
2006-11-30 05:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is trying to help you. It is time to make a plan not just in your mind but on paper where you can see it. It gives you a good sense of which direction to take. Good luck.
2006-11-30 05:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋