What is worse, the relationship has been long distance for the past 3 months and will be for another year possibly...and even though she says it was a mistake, she still sees the other guy out all the time, although she says it is because he is in her "circle of friends" and she won't not hang out with her friends. I don't think I can trust her, what should I do?
2006-11-30 04:44:39 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you cant trust her then its time to let her go. If she isnt willing to stop going out with her friends when he is around then it shows she does not value what she has with you.
2006-11-30 04:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey B;
First of all ...you have been with this female for 3 years. After 3 years you two should be getting even closer. Cheating is NEVER a mistake how does someone mistake opening their legs and letting someone in??? She cant be trusted she has proven this already. She will do it again. Move on you deserve much better. In a long distance relationship you will NEVER REALLY know what she is doing and b/c of her cheating you will always wonder where she was when she was out or came back home late, etc..move on. Good Luck!!
2006-11-30 04:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Naomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk, run.
So after 3 months she threw away 3 years with you? Hmm...
I would say that you could think about getting back together with her at some later time, however, for now it would be best for you to go out on your own, and see if you can find someone more worthy of your trust and love.
Leave her with an open friendship, and let her know that you are not trying to punish her, but that it's what is best for you right now.
Look, the only time you should stay with someone is if you are married with kids, and then only to just TRY for the kids. That is, you should try to make changes, and forgive if only for the kids. Most times, even then it does not work out. So why set yourself up for more hurt?
2006-11-30 04:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Scott D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just basically answered your question! If you can't trust her, why are you going to put yourself through the misery of wondering what she's doing all the time? Especially since you two are in a long-distance relationship now. I'm sure you love her very very much, but anyone that is going to cheat on someone they 'love' does not actually 'love' you or respect you.
2006-11-30 04:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by KrisJH24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard and obviously don't work very well for your girl. I wonder how old you are? I say that because if you're young, why give up the experience of meeting new people, dating, and having fun? I would advise breaking up. And if you guys come back together after the year, it was meant to be. Otherwise, there are so many fish in the sea.
2006-11-30 04:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would let her go! She is slowly moving on with her life. If I were you. I would do the same thing. Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain. Remember you were the faithful one not her. Move on she sounds like a heart breaker to me. If she really loved you she would have broken up with you before she cheated on you. You can't trust her anymore once she crosses that line and you allow it, she will keep doing it, and nobody wants to be a doormat.
2006-11-30 05:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another year? Damn! I know you say you love her but think about it, if she says she won't not see this other guy, then the question really is about trust.
Then you should consider how you found out. Did she tell you? That may earn her browny points coz she trusts you enough to tell you the truth and also thinks that the relationship can handle it.
2006-11-30 04:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Questionis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEy if you gave a starving dog food do you expect him not to eat it. MAn your dumb, you need to get rid of her and find another one. Because what would she do it if you have cheated on her and still saw the girl, because she was in your circle of friends. Man that's a lame excuse they are giving you and if you fall for it, oh well. The best thingiis if she got away with it the first time how do you knnow she's not doing it again and again especially now that your not around.
2006-11-30 04:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can't trust her than you should end the relationship or figure something out, it's going to be really hard for her to regain your trust when she's distant from you and as time progresses it's not going to get any better. The only way that you two could really salvage your relationship is to be together.
2006-11-30 04:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her right away. She wants to break up with you, she's just too passive agressive to admit it.
The reality of the situation is that if she really wanted to stay with you she would not have told you. That was her way of sabotaging the relationship.
So break up with her. Long distance relationships almost never work, and you'll always be wondering if she's cheating or not with this guys she sees ALL THE TIME.
2006-11-30 04:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by equinebeing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation for any relationship. Without trust, there is NO relationship. And Once a cheater, always a cheater... she will DEF cheat again. I'll bet that she has cheated on previous boyfriends as well whether or not you know about it.
2006-11-30 04:47:00 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋