Its been 6years when my husband went to abroad..for 6years, he only got 1 vacation for us but only 3 weeks..very short time together..my youngest son is only 10months when he left now my son is allof with his father..maybe he is ashamed, i dont understand why my son acted like that..i always explain to my son that his father workhard for them...my eldest and 2nd child understand the situation..but sometimes i fell pity to my children especially during b-days,xmas and new year..i knew that my children longing a father, even im always there for them...its defferent..me also longing for my husband not only because of myself needs..you cant call a family if one missing..family cant buy $ for me..but w/o $ you cant buy anything you want..but for me, i wont entend anything as long as my children happy because they have a father to be called...my only problem is my youngest son, until now he's not talking with his father everytime my husband called..what is the best way to do?
2006-11-30 04:43:29 · 2 answers · asked by nivea girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that's a toughie.. the only answer i have is that your youngest does not know his father and in essence it's like talking to a stranger.. scary.. maybe talk more about him to your kids.. show pictures, have them do drawings and you can mail them to him or say that you will. i dont know, just something to make them feel closer to thier father.. good luck hun
2006-11-30 05:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your youngest son has no memories of his father, as he was a baby when he left.. Your other children do. Your husband is a stranger to this child and your son will not be close to a stranger.
The bonding with children takes place when they are small, this is why your older children understand his being away...
It has been a very long time for you to be on your own and looking after everything in the household. Why are you not living abroad with your husband?? This is not a marriage that you have and I can understand the feelings of your youngest child. He is being cheated out of a life with a father and you are being cheated out of a life with a husband. This arrangement is not normal and is not healthy for you. You need to have a partner to support you emotionally, physically as well as financially.
Your child is correct in his feelings.. you can't find fault with him in this situation... He has a right to feel this way...
2006-11-30 13:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋