my boyfirend and i have been dating for 8 months and have known eachother for 2 and a half years.It is so hard to not throw myself at him when i want to make love with him. he has told me that he is ready as well but is afraid to,because it could cost us everything together because i am a minor. my parents like him but dont want us to do anything sexual. we really dont want to be separated. so how do you think we can go about doing this with out getting into trouble?
2006-11-30 04:42:56 · 21 answers · asked by Linds 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you love and respect this guy you will hold off on this. honor him for his respect of the law and of not wanting to put himself in a position to end up in jail. i understand you have feelings that are strong but imagine what you would feel like if he got locked up and made to register as a sex offender. i can assure you that if you two had to deal with those issues you would have gladly waited. i know its hard but hang in there, and know that before you know it you will be of legal age and the wait will be worth it!
2006-11-30 08:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice.. you can show love for each other without sexual contact at all. Here is what you do.. The best part is both of you get naked! 2. let him lie on his back and touch him for 30min WITHOUT touching his privates!!! WHAT WOULD THAT DO?? i am sure your asking. Well, its an intimate way of getting to know each other much deeper. He will and you will know that for 30 min you are touching zones he never he had! Some my be uncomfortable while other will feel relaxing, glide your hands over him, apply different pressures, use different parts of hand, but DONT touch him below!! AFTER 30 min is up, its your turn and he will do the same but he CAN'T touch your breasts or privates either. After 30min you will have both known more about each other sexually without sexual contact and no cops after you!!
Hope this helps!!
2006-11-30 04:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - You could just wait. What's the rush? Having sex is not going to keep you together.
2 - Just jump him. Statutory rape (consenting sex with a minor) is rarely punished these days. R Kelly hasn't even gone to court yet.
Don't forget the condoms. There is nothing like a pregnancy or an STD to make it known to your parents that you are sexually active.
2006-11-30 04:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I guess he's looking at statutory rape here if you two do the 'do'?
Sounds like he's pretty smart. Why put his well-being in jeopardy? If you really care about him, YOU'LL wait.
He could do jail time, be labeled a child molester, lose his right to vote, lose his job, etc. if he sleeps with you.
Do him a favor. Get a dildo and think of him while you use it.
Maybe you really aren't as interested in him as you are interested in the challenge and the daring of doing something possibly illegal?
2006-11-30 04:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you are at least of age and then have a special evening planned just for the two of you. And then it will be extra special because you waited and you will always remember your first time. And dont forget to cover your bases and make sure that you have protection.
2006-11-30 04:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your hormones talking sweetie. Believe me, if you are a minor. You really should wait until you're a bit older. You will feel this way many times over so dont rush into something you have no idea will lead you to.
2006-11-30 04:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that you have a great man that is willing to wait until you guys are able to have sex! So many woman are used and abused soon after they have sex with a man. You will have a better relationshipp because of it. At least you know his feeling for you are not tainted by sex.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 04:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say that you are a minor, I make the assumption that he isn't. If that is the case, he has a reason to be scared. His being in prison would really ut a damper on your relationship.
2006-11-30 04:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Steve H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a minor wait. Is it worth him getting in legal trouble. Some states will charge statuatory rape even it is consentual. I know that you don't really want to wait, but it would be better when you are legal.
2006-11-30 04:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you fell because i was in there when were still lovers in my husband..but you know, in your part its very dangerous to both of you have no experience in sex..doesnt mean w/o doing sexual, relationship getting weak...its not true as long you love each other and trusted..but some says having sex getting stronger,closser relationship...but you must know how to sexdrive so that your partner will injoy your company..just tell your partner using condom so that its not getting into trouble ok? have a nice date!
2006-11-30 05:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by nivea girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋