I took care of my grandmother for a year and never left her side. She past 5 months ago. Now i have her older sister and she has started being very mean to me also. I sacrifice my own needs and desires and sit in this house without an income and get treated like a dog. My aunt has all of her senses and knows whats going on around her. I don't leave her side at all, and it's hard when she treats me bad. Sometimes i want to give up, but i could not imagine putting any of my family in a nursing home. What do i do? Ignoring it has not made it any easier. I sit here 24 hours a day and feel like i'm not doing a good job when they act the way they do.
2006-11-30 04:42:41 · 8 answers · asked by Jackie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
omg do i know what you mean i am in the same boat with my mother i ask the Dr this question he told me the ones they are closest to they try to push us away so when they pass its not so hard on them he also told me that its like a survival mode she is doing it and not aware hope this helps e-mail me maybe we can be each others strength and sounding board hey remember you are doing a good job ask older sister to come over and sit while you get out if like my brother fat chance will happen take her out for rides i wear moms butt out driving makes her so tired and less fussy call and see if you are available for elder-care in your area its like a day care that go by income if you have children you are eligible for state help if not try elder day care cause you don't want her to pass and you have no way of supporting yourself cause you will be grieving plus trying to find a job and make ends meet happened to my best friend she lost everything me i am a cna which is a nurses aide and i work wk- ends only and have my oldest son come over while i work you have to plan for the future i know that sounds mean and i am sorry god i love you so much and don't know you and i feel your pain good luck
2006-11-30 05:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist of all do not put her in a nursing home the reason she is being so mean is because she do not like to be depended on no one you need to take a break from her about an hour a day you said she have her mind and you probably need a part time job
2006-11-30 04:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be because they are resentful, not at you, but at the situatuion. It would be hard to not be able to take care of yourself. I don't know what your finances are like but I would look into getting some one to come and help you. Their are alot of people that will help you, even if they only come for a hour or so, so that you can take a break. Maybe if you stay up beat, it will rub off on your aunt. And if all else fails ask her what is going on. It might not have anything to do with you, you are just the person who she can take it out on. I know that it is easy for me go say, but don't let it get you down.
2006-11-30 04:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by froggz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above is true. Who can know what they are feeling or thinking? Perhaps they are in great pain, great anger, can be a variety of things.
BUT...Here is some good advice. Do all of what you can, when you can, only if you want to. If you do it out of a desire to do it, then your reward is in knowing a job has been well done. If you are looking for accolades, applause, praise, or even thank-yous then you will not be happy in a job well done. You will only be happy for being recognized. In that case, you should not do it if it's not in your heart. I know tht sounds so simple, or stupid, or out there. But, tht is a fact you need to learn to do what you do for enjoyment of pleasing yourself, not others. Otherwise you are in for a lot of unhappiness. Folks are generally never thankful enough, patient enough or kind enough. That is sadly the way things are.
2006-11-30 05:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 13:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are angry that they are old and dependant on someone. They take it out on that person. Why are you having to do all the care-taking? Don't you have family members that can help? It's not fair that you get stuck doing all the work.
2006-11-30 04:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea what kind of discomfort she may be feeling.
I know I get ugly when I become incapable of being able to do the things I used to. It's so very frustrating. Perhaps if you let her know that you realize her 'pain' (whether it be pysical or mental) She may then realize the treasure that you truly are!
2006-11-30 04:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine being a completely functional, productive member of society and then one day you can't do anything for yourself anymore...
2006-12-04 06:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Byron W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋