My boyfriend broke up with me b/c of his parents. They are scared that he will do "stuff". I already told him that I still like him. How do I ask him to be with me and just not tell his parents? I know it is his choice but I like him soooo much. PLEASE HELP!
2006-11-30 04:35:52 · 4 answers · asked by bananayell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being in this situation myself back in high school, i will tell you. it is hard to do this. he has to make this decision on his own. because it is going to be hard to do anything with you and he is going to have to lie to them about where he is going and who he's going with. and they will probably suspect him of going with you against their wishes anyway so they already don't trust him. and when they find out, because they will, trust me, he will alienate them. i didn't talk to my parents for 2 years after they found out about us. it got bad, like they didn't let me go to graduation, tried to make me switch high schools, it was horrible. he needs to decide on his own if he is going to put himself through a situation like that.
2006-11-30 04:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience --
If you have to sneak around to be with him, you will eventually hate it. I know, because I tried it. I resented my boyfriend for not being honest with his parents, having to lie about my name so that I was 'someone else', and not being able to relax for fear we would run into his parents in public.
Some parents are insanely overprotective and overbearing. You can't do anything about them, and you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with a guy who grew up thinking that was 'normal'. Only God knows what kind of emotional problems you're going to find out he has and it will just be a pain in the butt later.
If, however, he stands up for himself and tells his parents that he wants to be with you and he's responsible enough to not do "stuff" with you that they don't approve of... well, then I would say you have a winner. Until then, there are many other guys who will date you and treat you the way you deserve without having to skulk around like a fugitive to do it.
2006-11-30 12:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, family should have little say-so on your relationship. Once you've moved out of your parents house, you should not let them have a major impact on your personal relationship. With that being said, if you feel that way then you need to find a person that feels the same way. It comes with being an adult.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 12:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents, his choice. In meantime, ask him to still be your boyfriend.
You could have a very 'friendly' relationship with him, but it will be hard if you're personally have been banned by his parents.
If doing this 'stuff' bother his parents, avoid it.
2006-11-30 13:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋