Maybe it's just me, but it seems that if kids act up in public, be it in a store, restaurant, or whereever, people will complain about what monsters the kids are and give the parents death glares. But, if the parents correct the children, people treat them (the parents) as if they are the reincarnates of Ted Bundy.
I don't have kids of my own, but even I can notice something like this going on and see how inane it is.
2006-11-30 04:35:50 · 13 answers · asked by I'm Still Here 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have noticed this myself. My solution? Ban children from public places.
2006-11-30 04:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
First of all parents aren't teaching their kids manners or respect. Secondly that whole time out thing doesn't work. And there is no third thing.
I raised 5 kids, only once did they each try to act up anywhere. I let them take their little fits and put up with all the glares, and then quietly walked out of where we were and brought them home. They were told that they would never go with me anywhere again ever. Kids are today nothing more then a reflection of what poor parenting is. CORPORAL PUNISHMENT should have never became illegal, and to think that the country is going to be run by them soon enough.
2006-11-30 10:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how the parents correct their children. If they lose it then that's bad but you have to put kids in their place otherwise they just walk all over you and develop bad habits. My parents would warn me and then if I persisted they would stop whatever we were doing and take me home. I don't think a lot of parents like being inconvenienced in this way. They don't want to leave the store or the movie theater to discipline their kids. It doesn't take much though. I learned pretty quick to keep my mouth shut.
2006-11-30 05:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see it all the time. Most of the time parents can't win.
I don't hit my children. I don't believe that teaches anything of value. I treat my children with respect and dignity and I require them to treat me the same.(not by scaring them into submission) My children, like all children, act up sometimes. I just remove them from the situation. If we are in the store then we leave the store. (or restaurant) Usually children are not acting up to be bad, they are just tired or bored. It is unfair for parents or other adults to expect children to behave perfectly for long periods of time in stores or restaurants. When possible just don't bring them places that they don't want to be.
2006-11-30 04:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on HOW the parents correct the child. I think it's sufficient to remove the child from the situation until or unless they calm down, and it's understandable to raise your voice sometimes if you have to, but I've seen some parents verge on abuse--cussing the child, slapping them in the head, tearing up their *** right in the middle of the aisle while the kid is screaming . . .
I think most people recognize that as excessive, humiliating for the child, and possibly more disturbing to other patrons than the original behavior of the child.
There's definitely a difference between discipline and abuse.
2006-11-30 04:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh it so happens all the time!
I have three children. I don't care if people stare or not. Mine know if they act up...it's on in their young lives!
I am very straightforward with my children. I have and will continue to threatened to whip their butts in front of everyone...be it Wal-Mart, a restaurant, or Church.
It's a very rare occasion that I have to follow through with that threat. I have done it and I'd do it again. The fact that I keep my word, keeps them in line.
If you don't teach them how to behave and teach them how to have manners from day one, then you might as well forget it.
I can't tell you how many times I've had perfect strangers come up to me a praise me for how well behaved and how wonderfully polite my children are. It makes me proud as their mother and makes them proud to know they are doing a good job. (People don't have to know that before we left the house, the little monsters dumped an entire box of Rice Krispies all over the entire living room carpet fighting over who got to pour the cereal into the bowls for breakfast!)
I have to supress the urge to scream at parents who don't control their children and the urge to whip those little behinds as well.
2006-11-30 04:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. Kids act up, blame the parents, parents discipline children, blame the parents. they can never win.
I'm a cashier, and there is this woman who comes in all the time to rent movies with her children and the one is always acting up. I was talking with another customer(she's there all the time too) and we saw this woman spank her child and we both agreed that this was the best thing. we didn't see this being a bad thing to do at all.
2006-11-30 04:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i could desire taking it from the Scriptures.The Double Edged Sword. It penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the suggestions and attitudes of the middle. no longer something in all creation is hidden from Him. each thing is uncovered and laid bare previously the eyes of him to whom we would desire to provide account.
2016-10-13 10:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents make the mistake of wanting their kids to like them and be their friend so they get away with everything.
2006-11-30 05:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by baby1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's a part of life. =T we NEED social interaction sometimes in order to learn what is "good" behavior and "bad" behavior. so, for example, a mother might spoil her children or let them run amock at home. but when they go out, they act the same way and she gets death stares outside and realizes that she needs to discipline them in a different way, at home. sure, it's at the annoyance of the PUBLIC, but that's the whole point of social etiquette. :) if u don't get the glares, u don't even know ur doing anything wrong!
2006-11-30 04:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
so true, a double edged sword,
you get looked down on if your kids misbehave
but yet the power to parent and guide the child has be so restricted, that it leads to embarrassment in public, we restrict our children going out in public when they act out and embarrass us. what else can you do short of a rod
Spare the rod spoil the child. ( the rod being discipline not spanking)
2006-11-30 04:48:01 · answer #11 · answered by taffneygreen 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋