my bf got mad at me. because i had dated my brothers bf in highschool. for two weeks. and failed to tell him. my bro best friend is part of the family. and lived at my home while in hs. and about a year and a half a go i slept with my brothers best friend . just once. and he comes here for the holidays cus his family abandond him. and he stays at our house on the couch. and ive been dateing my bf for 5 months and he got pissed off . when my brother told him about me dating his best friend and i told him it shouldnt matter . and its like he is my best friend and not my x.
2006-11-30 04:32:08 · 26 answers · asked by aleisha21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dated the guy for 2 weeks, he wasn't entitled to know unless you felt compelled to tell him. Take this as a warning of how he will treat you in the future. Jealousy is a bad trait.
2006-11-30 04:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current boyfriend sounds controlling, jealous and irrational. Explain to him calmly that people have history. That you didn't start existing the day you started dating him. And just because you dated someone for two measely weeks and slept with him once, it doesn't mean you like your current boyfriend any less, and it doesn't mean you can't be friends with your ex.
However, I can understand that your current boyfriend may feel insecure with your ex sleeping in your couch. You may have to compromise on that one, and suggest a motel to your ex.
If you explain it to him calmly and he is still irrational, jealous and pissed off, consider that this behaviour can escalate to abusive behaviour - it happens all the time.
Are you in love with your boyfriend? Do you intend to spend your life with him? If so, consider couple' counselling. It really can help you two work out your issues in a safe, mediated environment.
If not, this may be the end of the road for you and your boyfriend. As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-11-30 04:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, follow Daniel B's advice. I assume that this was in your distant past. People (including your current AND future BF) have no right to judge your past. That's why it's the past - you can never change or repeat it. You are the person you are now because of that. :) Everyone has some wrong decision in the past. If the person you're with now doesn't respect it, leave him or give him a good penalty kick - dead center on the balls.
2006-11-30 04:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by thomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to hand your boyfriend a list of ex boyfriends. Boy some people would hand a list of 40 people if that is the case (not me, but some people). Did he give you a list. I also don't hate any of my ex's and that includes my ex husband. You are supposed to forgive and forget. It isn't as if you go out all the time on dates with the guy. He should trust you and trust is important in a relationship.
2006-11-30 04:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your BF has some self confidence issues. It shouldn't matter, but you need to make sure your BF knows how much you care for him. If he still can't understand then maybe you should think about getting out of the relationship.
2006-11-30 04:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by EricG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just to bad that some people don't understand how the past is past. He shouldn't have anything to worry about if he is doing his best to be Good to you. I find that it takes longer for men to learn that. Anyway, during the holidays coming up I would make sure that my current boyfriend is always there when the x is there. They just might find that they can be Friends too. Most men are visual creatures and need to see for themselves how we treat the men of our past.
2006-11-30 04:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Terry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refer to him and assure him that you may want to not in any respect cheat on him (emphasize this, yet provided that you fairly advise it). And assure him that they are in straight forward words your friends and not in any respect something better than acquaintances of yours. that isn't any longer top for couples to inform one yet another no longer to talk to the option sex. That purely shows there's no believe in the relationship. i'll assert my boyfriend trusts me to the fullest. I dangle out with my ex boyfriend each and every of the time and my contemporary boyfriend is by no ability stricken because he's conscious i might want to not in any respect cheat. i do not even might want to tell him this, he purely is conscious I received't do it. and that i recognize i'll believe him with different females. you want to attempt progression an same believe which include your boyfriend. It makes the relationship plenty a lot less puzzling.
2016-10-08 00:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to be pissed off. For a start it was only once. But more importantly it's not like you cheated on your bf-it was long before you two started dating!
2006-11-30 04:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can see your point, but put yourself in his position. How would you feel if he slept with an ex gf, and she stayed on the couch in his home.......
If you want the relationship to work, you must valdate his feeling, because they are real.
2006-11-30 04:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by â?ªâ?« Hïþþþ¥ â?«â? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur bf should trust u and believe you when u say ur x isn't like ur x he's more like a friend. If ur bf doesn't trust u know what's going to happen later on when things get even more serious!!!!!
2006-11-30 04:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by *~*bR!@n@*R@3*~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋