My best friend is a guy and he has serious feelings for me but he has a gilfriend.We met three years ago at a party i was extreemly intoxicated and i hooked up with him and did a little more than i should have.I slept at his house and after that we dated for three months but we (I) decided that we should just be friends.We've been really close and hes the only man i trust .after we broke up I havent done ANYTHING with him except hug him.But when i went away for the summer he got a girlfriend.She likes him alot but hes told me more than once that hes tired of her and he never got over me.I've been so confused.He comes over everyday and we have sleep overs with no sex involved.But the last time we hung out his girl friend went crazy and she doesnt want him to hang out with me.The problem is that when he got a girlfriend i became extreemly Jealous and i cant get him out of my mind. Should i tell him and hurt his girlfriend?
2006-11-30 04:23:31 · 8 answers · asked by natchi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop. Ask yourself a few things first: Do you REALLY want him back? Is he just a friend, or do you want more? Why do you want more? What does he bring you that is different from every other guy? If you said yes to the first few questions and had good reasons for the last two, then you should get back with him. He obviously has feelings for you, too, but he does have a significant other now. It isn't fair to her if he breaks up with her to be with you, but that is what will happen. Is it worth the pain? Does he love her, or is he just with her for no apparent reason? Think before you act.
~~Naomi
2006-11-30 04:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by lighted_crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to ask him, what is going on with him and his girlfriend. Kind of feel him out. See what he says. As for the friendship becoming more, you had a chance before and decided that it didn't work than, why would you think that this would work this time, I mean sounds like to me that you like him because he is getting to close to his girlfriend now, and you don't like that he is giving her all the attention. You need to see what kind of response you get from him, and if he tells you he is not serious, then I don't see any harm in going for it with him. If he says he has feelings for her, then you are better off remaining friends. Sounds like he should and is the love of your life, but see where the relationship stands between you and he. I lost my best friend because of that same thing you are going through. We are friends again now. It has taken a while (years), but we are friends again now. Don't mess up, a good thing that you have now between you and he. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-30 12:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what age group you all belong to, If I were to assume you were still in HS or even college age: My advice is to just let their relationship take it's course. If he never got over you, he will try again. His girlfriend is now leary of you (with good reason, so you can't get angry with her). Let him come to you when this relationship ends - it will. This way you are not the bad guy & you'll know that he came to you willingly.
2006-11-30 12:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't he hurting her anyway. He's not over you, so he's leading her on. Tell him but be sure you are willing to risk your friendship over a relationship. I did and we've been together 11 years.
2006-11-30 12:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is as crazy as you say then you should talk to him about it. And like you said he told you he never got over you and that he doesn't even like her that much anymore. it's simple as that.
try not to hurt her though she is probably scared already that you are going to take him from her. be gentle.
2006-11-30 12:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by mrsdycus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lover should be your best friend and if shes jealous too hes already told his feelings to her
2006-11-30 12:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't. just keep your feelings to yourself. afterall, if you guys are meant for each other, eventually you will end up together.
2006-11-30 12:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please move on
2006-11-30 12:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋