This is are first time being a Army family and I have always been close to my family and friends. I don't know how I am going to handle having to be states away from them when we have always leaved 30mins away from everyone. Plus I am going to be taking care of our 2 year old son will he is in basic an AIT. I am just scared right know and feel lost I don't know how to even start dealing with it. I have tried reading the pamplet and booklets and it makes me feel so overwealmed. Please if anyone can help me with how to deal with all of this I would greatly appriecate it. His is going in as a Fire Support Specailist and all I know about it is he tells people where to blow up things and that makes me nervous as well.
2006-11-30 04:20:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Girl - take a deep breath!
You can take care of your child right? So that is taken care of.
You'll find out during basic or AIT where you will move.
The Army pays for all of that.
I was depressed for a few months after moving away. I was 7 months pregnant, my oldest had to go to his dad's for the summer. We lived off post - and in a crappy neighborhood. One vehicle - and he used it to go to work.
Luckily for you, most phone companies charge a flat rate for monthly long distance - I pay 15 dollars a month for all the long distance I can use (that's how I look at it...). When I moved our phone bills were 250 or so a month.
You'll get used to it slowly. Become involved in the family readiness group or the family support group (same thing - but different places call them different things). There will be lots of other wives with children that are far from family.
You'll meet a lot of great people - some not so nice ones - but it's kind of the same as civilian life. Before you confide senitive info, be sure who you're talking with can (and will) keep it confidential.
Does he have any idea where he'll be?
Email me - it's on my profile and we can "talk" there better.
2006-11-30 04:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to a website called CincHouse.com
It's a great resource and have many chat rooms to find the answers that you are looking for. I was in the Navy and my husband is still in while I decided to get out to care for our son who is a special needs child. The military provides everything that you could need. The Family Support Groups are WONDERFUL! Take advantage of them and there are so many spouses that are in your position. You are NOT ALONE!!! Reach out and you will find arms to support you when your down and shoulders to cry on when you feel like it. It can be a trying time on a marriage, but let me tell you this...my husband left on a 6 month deployment New Year's Eve and I can say that when he returned that next year I loved him more than I thought I eve could. I appreciate him more and more each day that he's gone and even when he's here. Don't be afraid to cry and let your fears be known. It helps alot!
Good luck!
2006-11-30 13:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Boo Boo Head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry to much about the family and friend thing. You meet so many people here. They know how you are feeling. They will probably become some of the best friends you will ever have. My son was a year and a half when my husband left for boot camp. I'm not going to lie it was one of the hardest things that ever happen to me. You need to take one day at a time. Don't over think things. The pride you will have for him when you see in grad boot camp. Makes up for everything. It will make your relationship with him a lot stronger. Try not to worry about what he is going to be doing. It will just stress you out more. Get your self a hobby to pass time and focus on raising your baby. That is what helped be out. Good luck to you.
2006-11-30 13:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a huge ajustment but it is great. I was the same way with my family & friends. I just moved 12 hours away and I am now loving it. I get to see how much I have taken everyone for granted. And now I see how special they really are to me. I always knew, but this really opened my eyes BIG time!
Not to mention, this is a great thing for your child. He will be able to meet new people and have friends all over. And you too. You are going to meet so many people and before you know, you are going to know people all over the place. How fun is that to take a trip and visit people out of state.
And not to mention, there are so many perks to being in the military. If your hubby is going to make a career out of it, he can retire in 20 years. And he will get paid the rest of his life. And free medical. You cannot go wrong. Everything will be hard at first from the financial to the not having any friends problems, but trust me, it gets better as time passes. Pay raises and new friends. And not to mention, all the things different places have. Where I am now, it is so kid friendly. There is so much for kids to do!
Good luck!
2006-11-30 12:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by MANDY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While he is in Basic and AIT, you will not be able to live with him. Its probably better for him that way, as 100% of his time will be on training.
Once he graduates and goes to a duty station, you will be able to live together and get housing. There are TONS of resources and groups to help new families deal with it. Once he knows where his unit will be, contact the family support group for that unit. It will be other families and wives who are in the same unit, and they will help you with everything. You are never alone in this.
2006-11-30 12:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ladies before me gave you good advice. The Service is there to provide great assistance to you and your family.
I was US Navy, and my wife was in the same position. The Navy took great care of her... the wives keep each other supported and busy.
ONE thing I MAY suggest as a husband and payer of bills... USE email often when communicating with your distant family !! I was SHOCKED when I found our long-distance bills as my wife called her mother !!
Good luck and thank you for supporting your husband.
2006-11-30 12:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by mariner31 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with every aspect of the military family.IE Famliy Readiness Group(FRG), Enlisted spouses club, if he is young enough to go to play group go with your kid. Every single other family member on your husbands post is going through the same thing so get accounted with your neighbors for support.
2006-11-30 15:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Nasty Leg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heres a great website for new recuits spouses
www.armyonesource.com
2006-11-30 13:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by hockeytwn09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋