I have been with my guy for 2 years. He says that he knows that I am the one for him and that he does want to marry me 'someday'. I moved across the country to be with him(his job) and now we are moving to another state because his job is transfering him again. I would never want to marry him if he wasn't ready, but I am confused as to why he says he wants to, but just not 'yet'. If he really wants to marry me, why would he want to put it off?
2006-11-30 04:11:03 · 9 answers · asked by h_nanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a sacrifice. It is giving up the single life and quite a bit of independence. Plus, he probably wants to make sure he is adsequately prepared to support you and a family.. It's frustrating, I'm sure, but he'll come around in time.
2006-11-30 04:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know it is a relivent question, my fiance and I are getting married either the end of December or the begining of January, the only reason i am putting it off is because i dont have a car, we are moving to texas in 8 months and I know ive got to do this :) to answer your question, Maybe he does have somthing like this going on as to where in his mind there is one more thing he has got to do or have before he can feel he can make things right :)
2006-11-30 12:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are giving him everything, without the commitment of marriage. He has nothing to gain by marrying you. If you want to get married, you need to tell him. If he refuses to commit, you need to let him go so you can find someone who wants the same things as you. You don't want to marry someone who doesn't want to marry you, and you don't want to push him into marriage, it won't last if that happens.
2006-11-30 12:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you that he will never marrry your @ss, you will pack your sh!t up and leave. Saying someday keeps you around. Don't think of it as a fear to commit. There is no fear. It is more likem "dayum, do I REALLY love this chick so much I'm willing to give up the rest of them?" He'll finally commit when he realizes he can't do better. If something better comes along, which I'm sure it does all the time, he probably tries and fails to get these women. He needs somebody around to nail in between his attempts of getting better. Chump probably won't though and then you'll get him all to yourself. Sorry if this is too cynical for you, my head is kinda messed up lately... Imagine a better world and you'll probably be able to live in it.
2006-11-30 12:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my bf does this as well....says one day or maybe sometime.....but he's been married before and I haven't. Maybe he's basing his decision on what someone else did to him...dunno for the time I'm content but I do want to be married and if he's eventually not willing to comprimise then eventually we won't be together...for now though its fine...it depends on how long you want to wait
2006-11-30 12:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels he is not financially ready... Maybe he wants to be sure he can provide for you... How old is he? How old are you? Everything comes in due time... Just be patient, it should be time he proposes though...two years is enough time to know whether you want to be with someone or not...
Just make sure he is not waiting for something better to come along...
Good luck!!!
2006-11-30 12:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to wait until his job is more settled.
2006-11-30 12:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For him, there is no need for marriage since he can get everything from you that marriage can give him: sex, love, care... so he wouldn't commit.
2006-11-30 12:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee I dont know, maybe he needs more time to get to know you.
2006-11-30 12:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋