will she call me again or is it finnaly over with my ex. I still am in luv with her?

Question

last mounth my gf 4yr broke up with me. Sayin shes scared and dosent feel de same. 2week later she call and wants back. I open my heart again, n start ovr. She tells me how much she loves me and missed me and how she didnt see herself with any1 but me. She then leaves 2 go see her friend. When she left she called leaving messages about how much she loves me and misses me. She then comes back up and the distance is back. On thanksgiven she breakes up with me agian. I call her friday she says she regerts doing this and was trying to see if she chould force something. Now i am left with the pain. Is she confused? will she call again. Is this garented. i still luv her and would try it again. But why say so much if your not so sure of your self. why talk about marrige and moving in with me and making love to me if you were not even sure. This is making me sick. she was my first and i just dont know anymore. we never argued or fought baddly. Will she ever talk to me agian. Any addvice b gr8.

Answer 1

Don't subject yourself to this monotony. Say no. Or propose to her and keep her 4ever.

Answer 2

i would let her go. i know it's hard trust me, at least you weren't pregnant when she made this decision (i know that's physically impossible but bear with me). if she is going to keep doing this to you, she is not worth it. it's no longer about how much you love her, it's about how much you love yourself. do you want to keep putting yourself through this pain? if you are not sure if she will do it again, then let go. you have to be sure. i learned this the hard way. i was left with an apartment i couldn't afford, no way to get to work, no food, no nothing, 8 months pregnant. and he wanted me to wait for him because he doesn't think it's going to work out with his new girlfriend. and i was. i was dying without him i needed him so bad i was sorry for everything i ever did and it was horrible. i would have taken him back in a heartbeat. eventually i realized that even if he does come back to me (which i still believe he will) i will never take him back. this will happen again. and i can't survive it a second (actually third) time. and 3 days before this happened he was talking about marrying me. it makes me think it was all a lie. maybe it was. he put me through hell. and he made me go through the birth of our son alone. and he's sick, and he doesn't want anything to do with him. and i'm giving him up for adoption (we were doing that before we broke up) and he wants nothing to do with it. through all this, do i still love him? yes. will i always? yes. but that is not an excuse to be treated like that, i know things will never change with him, and it hurts like hell but i know there is someone out there somewhere that will love me for who i am. i moved on. it hurt, it still does, i still cry ALL THE TIME but i know i am a better person without him.

i know my situation is a little different, but it's kinda the same.