im a 15 year old teenager that wants to tell my parents that i want to live with my boyfriend weve been together for 8 months and i really love him but i dont know how to tell them without them thinking im playing around! my parents now about my relasionship for 7months because wetalked to them at the begging of our relasionship! How do i tell them!
2006-11-30 04:05:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe you answered your question yourself. The first thing you said was "I'm a 15 year old teenager." Since you are so hesitant to tell your parents about what you'd like to do, you know what their answer will be. Since you're 15, I assume you're still in high school? How will you manage? How old is your boyfriend? If he's over 18, he could be arrested for rape. There are just so many issues you have to deal with in school alone, that I wouldn't suggest adding living with someone. Who will cook, clean, and pay the bills? If you really love your boyfriend, and he loves you, he will still be there when you've finished high school, and are ready to move on to the next stage of your life. Just hang in there...
2006-11-30 04:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend, where are you guys going to live and how are you going to support yourself? Trust me i was 15 when I got engaged and we wanted to move in together and everything else. Im still with him now but we had to wait until I was 18 to actually live together. Depending on how chill your parents are with that kind of stuff they might let you but most likely they wont let you go. And if you go anyway they can call the police and if your boyfriend is over 18 which I expect that he is than he will go to jail and be put on a sex offender list. If you really want to live with him and think that is is going to work out completely in the end I might wait at least until your 17 and legal. But if you do decide to talk to your parents, make sure they are not in a bad mood that you let them know before hand that they need to stay open minded and not say no right away. You need to think of reasons why it will benefit you and not hurt you. You need your boyfriend and you and your parents to sit down and have a conversation about it so that everyone is reassured. I wish you well and hopefully you will have better luck than I did.
2006-11-30 04:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to move in together. Why don't you wait till your 18, save your money from now until then, get engaged and then move in with each other. You will have more money and a better shot at your love really lasting if you are just a bit patient. Besides why break your parents hearts if you don't have to. Try to things the right way and things will work out much better for you. How old is your Bf that he could afford to support the 2 of you.You Are very young there is plenty of time for living with someone else besides your parents. I have 4 daughters, trust me...be patient. Good Luck
2006-11-30 04:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by skipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are much too young to even be considering this. It would be a big mistake on your part. And unless your parents really want you out of the house, they would forbid it. You are still a minor and need to follow their rules. If you were my daughter, I would absolutely not allow you to do this. Take it from someone who has made my share of mistakes -- stay at home with your parents. How old is your bf? In my state, if you are under 16 and he is 18 or over, you would be considered 'jail bait'. It is called statutory rape. Whether you consent or not. He should be careful because if charged, he will carry a sentence of sex offender for the rest of his life. Think this all thru and don't jump into something that you may regret in a month.
2006-11-30 04:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them immediately so they can talk some sense into you.
If you make this decision without your parents consent, you will deprive yourself of all the things you need to accomplish for yourself.
Dont be a fool.
Think about it, what boyfriend would ask a fifteen year old to live with him?
Since he is not thinking about your future first, you need to.
If you want take this journey, you will have such a struggle down the road.
Your parents know what is best for you.
Please be mature enough to pay attention.
Enjoy your teenage years while you can.
Adulthood is a much longer road and not a piece of cake.
Feel proud of who you are and give your parents the chance to share that pride along with you.
2006-11-30 04:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude or anything but that will be the most crazy thing to do i moved in with my boyfriend but i am 21 i know you may think your old enough but your really not i myself still have alot of things to learn. I say give it a few years before you take the next step go to college and then think about him and if you and him are still together then go to the next step because life only get harder the older you get and bills begin to come every month when your not living with parents. Think about it first long and hard and dont settle for less then what you are worth
2006-11-30 04:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by K S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all sweetheart you are way too young to be moving that fast. I know you have probably heard that all before but it's true. I tried living with a guy when I was 18 and ended up pregnant you might not be going that avenue but now I am single lonely and have a beautiful child that I raise all by myself. Have you ever thought that about what if it don't work out? Are you going to be back at your parents? I mean that's not fair to them for you to move out when they know in their hearts that it probably won't work my advice to you is to sit down with your parents and talk to them not about moving in but about having him stay the night or you staying over there more you don't want to rush anything you have your whole life ahead of you at least wait til you are 18 and see where you and your boyfriend are.
2006-11-30 04:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can your boyfriend support you? Can you finish school? Lust is wanting to be with someone, love is making it work. You can't just say it will work out because we're in love, you have to have a plan. Once you have a 'map' for your life, telling your parents won't be traumatic. If your boyfriend is 18 or older, keep in mind that moving in with him will land him in jail so you'll be back with your parents anyway. If he's under 18, he can't support you on a part time job, and if you plan to live with his parents, you need to talk to them about if you can stay. Think about how you are going to build a life together. Then living together will have a natural flow to it.
2006-11-30 04:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under 18 and have no reason to live with your boyfriend. Your parents are trying to protect you from danger in a male and female relationship. It doesn't matter how long you and him have been together. What matters is your age. I would tell you to just date and have fun with him now and make your decision 3 years later on. You should be proud that your parents allow you to date at 15. My parents never allow me to date at 15 and they were strict about where I was and who I was with then.
2006-11-30 04:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 years old! You aren't even finished growing yet! You are a child! Where will you live? With his parents? How old is he? Is he old enough to move out on his own? Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. One day you'll be sorry you were in such a hurry.You have High School Proms, and Homecoming dances as well as High School sports You should be thinking about trying out for cheer Leading, or Drama. So much ahead don't miss out!
2006-11-30 04:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋