After reading Wishful Thinker's question here
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvcnnzDl2gJ9zwZy86qwAsXzy6IX?qid=20061130081729AASh9yz
I got to thinking about the responses. How would people respond if the cases were reversed? What if, instead of a straight Christian brother not wanting to go to his gay sister's baby shower (as sister he supported until she got pregnant), it was a gay brother who didn't want to go to his straight sister's baby shower?
How would people respond then? Would it still be, he has to hang his pride and stupid christian values on the shelf and go to a shower he doesn't support? Or, hey, good for him? Should we really force someone to accept something just because we think it's right, is that the way to do things?
2006-11-30 03:52:07 · 13 answers · asked by sister steph 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Stephen, if he's not going to feel comfortable, then no, he doesn't have to go.
2006-11-30 04:07:11 · update #1
The same way I responded to Wishful.
2006-11-30 03:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mav here! 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid there may be a few jerks that tell the gay guy he shouldn't go because he doesn't belong at a family event anyway because he's gay.
If he had a problem with her because he didn't support the rights of straight people I think most people would say he should 'put that aside' for a few hours and go to the shower. You only get one family. I actually don't know anyone who morally objects to heterosexuality so that's a little hard to imagine.
If the sister didn't want him at the shower, then he shouldn't go no matter who's gay and who's straight.
**You're right in that no one ever should be FORCED into doing something that makes them uncomfortable. If he really doesn't feel he can handle it then he shouldn't go! He can send a card explaining why he felt he couldn't be there but he loves her anyway.
2006-11-30 04:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't see the originally posted question, but my views would not change dependent on who was gay and who was straight.
Yes. He has to hang his pride and stupid Christian values on the shelf and go to a shower he doesn't support, whether it's his straight sister or his gay sister. This is his FAMILY, and clearly his parents aren't going to be around much longer. Not only that, but do you think when little Susie/Johnny is born, they won't hear how Uncle Jack didn't want to come to her/his baby shower?! It is absurd that this man would even CONSIDER punishing the CHILD because he disagrees with his sister's lifestyle. I disagree with many things my sister does, but when it comes right down to it, she is one of only two links I will have to my parents and my childhood when my mother and father pass (my brother will be the other link).
Siblings are incredibly important in our lives. This man's parents, if they have had a drastic change of heart about their daughter and her "friend", clearly understand this. They know they're not going to be around much longer and they know how important it is for their children to hold onto each other. They are also clearly aware of how important it is to welcome their grandchild into the world with open hearts and open arms.
Doesn't matter who's gay or straight in this picture. It comes down to the importance of family.
Bright blessings.
)O(
2006-11-30 04:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but when it comes to family, gay or straight, you should be there regardless of your personal feelings. How can you not celebrate something like a baby shower just because the baby is going to have 2 moms? Who cares? You're there to celebrate the event.
2006-11-30 03:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respond the same way, family is family no matter what. You don't have to agree with everything your family members do but you should still show them your love, regardless of faith.
Blessed Be )O(
Here is another one to ponder: What if a straight christian sister is having a baby shower at church and the gay brother, who isn't welcome at church for his homosexuality, is asked to come anyways... should he go?
2006-11-30 04:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In either case, my answer would be the same. Ita about that baby, not the parents, and if you will accept the child as part of the family, go to the shower to support the BABY.
Issues with the parents, deal with the seperatly.
2006-11-30 03:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each individual person has a right to his or her own beliefs and we as a society cannot change them. Hopefully, if that person is unaccepting of another person, especially someone in his family, then he would forgo his religion and support the family member. It is sad to let something like religion get in the way a brother and sister but that is his choice and she should not let what he believes, be it foolhardy, affect her.
2006-11-30 03:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gay brother has to hang his Christian values why? His Christian values tell him to discriminate against his straight sister?
2006-11-30 03:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is, when all is said and done gays are far more open minded than straights. Maybe it's because they know what it feels like to be persecuted or maybe they just have more compassion for people.
2006-11-30 03:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world you could ask that question but the fact is people stereotype normal. it is a "normal" thing to go to a Straight couples baby shower where it is not "normal" to go to a lesbian shower.
2006-11-30 03:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Piper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋