how much of this do i subject myself to???....what would you do??? problem with sister.....?

Question

my sister moved into town yesterday (moved in with my parents)...while she was driving here she called me like 4 times saying she wanted to see me as soon as she got here, etc....so as soon as she gets into town i go to my parents and after 15 minutes she gets upset (upset because i don't want to go out with her....i have serious depression and anxiety and don't leave my house very much)....so she gets upset and goes to the bar (it's 1:00 in the afternoon) and she leaves without saying a word to me....so she calls me later in the day, twice...and hangs up on me twice.........i really would like to have a relationship with her and be friends, but the situation is really, really stressing me out....and honestly if she weren't my sister i would have ended the relationship after she was so rude yesterday....i just got out of the hospital a month ago for a depression....i kind of feel like i need to protect myself emotionally right now....what do i do??

.....she understands (or should) about depression cuz she is manic depressive....
...also she is addicted to percocet and is an alcoholic, i am a recovering alcoholic and don't think it's really smart to be spending alot of time with some-one in active addiction
....she knows i just got out of the hospital, and the rest of my family is understanding of my limitations right now
.....she is also mad at me because she expects me to hang out with her ALOT so she won't be bored and also "hook her up" with some friends, i feel that's a huge responsibility to put on some-one else.....and how the heck do you make friends for another person anyways!

i DID offer to hang out with her yestereday....but she left without even saying goodbye!!

Answer 1

You have to take care of yourself and not worry about what others expect from you.
Ask your parents to speak with your sister and explain your situation.
If your sister continues to call and upset you, dont take her calls.
She sounds like a very selfish person and not very considerate.
Please take care of yourself first, and dont allow anyone to upset you.

Answer 2

Your sister may be trying to get you out of your depression but in her way. She may not really know the whole situation with you and your depression or she may not know anything about depression in general. Are you on medication? Sometimes it just takes time and baby steps. Suggest to go to the store just for something and come right back until you can be out for longer periods of time. I know it is tough with depression. I have Panic Disorder which runs in my family along with other depression issues in my family. I have a sister total opposite of me and yes I think she is a biatch but she is my sister and I love her for that. Does your sister know you just got out of the hospital? Tell her you need to take things slowly and you would appreciate it if she would go along with your wishes. If she loves you as a sister she should be understanding. Good luck and take care.

Answer 3

You get up off you a*s and go out with your sister. You can't hole up in your house because you are depressed. Are you going to stay in there forever? Sitting around doing nothing by yourself is helping you be more depressed for longer, not helping you. Maybe everyone is tired of you not doing anything with anyone and that's why your sister was mad. Maybe she hadn't seen you for a while and just missed you and wanted to hang with you. Maybe she wanted to talk to you about something she couldn't infront of your parents. Maybe you are the one who owes the apology.

Answer 4

Well, your sister needs to be more understanding of your feelings. You don't feel like socializing, so she should have just stayed in with you instead of going to a bar. You guys could have watched a movie or something together.....drinking doesn't have to be a necessity to have fun. You shouldn't be drinking anyways b/c you're probably on anti-depressants. Talk to your sister and tell her that you would enjoy doing a sister night together....watch movies, play games, talk, pop popcorn, etc.

Answer 5

You have a peron who is inconciderate of your illness and selfish besides, why do you want a relationship with her. If she wants party buddies, she needs to find someone who is into that.
But since she's your sister, you need to do something. Offer to go shopping or to a movie with her. Something that doesn't involve alcohol and crowds.

Answer 6

You do need to protect yourself. She is inconsiderate and is not thinking of how she is effecting you emotionally and just because she is your BLOOD doesn't mean you have to take that from her. After a nice explanation from you and you standing up for yourself (which you really need to do its good for you) if she doesn't change and start to respect your feelings you dont need to be a part of her life. You have to put you first its for your health. Good luck.

Answer 7

just because she is your sister don't mean you have to take the crap from her tell her ONE time what is going on in your life and why the bar scene is not your bag if she is a true sister she will understand and if she isn't then cut her out of your life till she can

Answer 8

i am very srry to hear that ur sis is being so mean to you and you should not be treated like that.no you don't have to put up with that kind of treatment and i applaude you for not going out drinking with your sister.please love guard your heart and don't let your sister bring you down keep strong

Answer 9

So what if she's your sister? She's rude, boorish, cruel... you don't keep people like that in your life just because you share DNA. Tell her you'll see her when she feels like acting like a caring grown up and not like a little brat. Then don't answer her calls.

Answer 10

Sounds like sis is someone you need to avoid..
Tell her that you have been ill and that she is
welcome to come over to your house for a short
visit ....