I have been seeing this guy for three months now but he seems to be loosing interest in me, he almost never calls me and he hardly ever asks me out, he talks in front of my about his plans for the weekend but never asks me to join him. The thing is that this is the third guy in a row that this happens with, I mean they start interested but then they stop showing interest, I feel like I´m the one doing something wrong, and I´m really sad about it because I thought that with this guy we would really hit it off but I feel like am loosing him and I don´t know what to do about it, I don´t sleep with them so it can´t be that , he´s not married, or shy or seeing anyone else, so what can I do to renew his interest, to make him come around more often? If I loose this guy I´ll be so dissapointed because I really thought things with him would be different but they´re begining to fade. I´m a really shy girl so I think maybe my shyness is the problem here.So please help me with some advice!
2006-11-30 03:33:50 · 11 answers · asked by jc pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you already know you doin't really have him to lose. So what do you want a very casual friendly relationship with him or do you maybe want to try looking around for some one that wants to spent time with you and do things with you? It sounds like he looks at you as just a friend not a girl friend. Go ahead and keep that friendship but don't settle for just that .There is someone that would love to have a real relationship out there find them.
2006-11-30 03:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by rockinshewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Honey I understand where your coming from and I'm glad your not intimate with them. They don't deserve it! I think you should start making your own plans find things to do with your friends... or family. Start making new friends also... Sometimes showing them that your not always there waiting will help trigger the fact that they have to make an effort. Other than that maybe ya'll just arn't meant to be. I wouldn't lose much sleep over it. When I'm dating and they start fading away I do the same. If he wants to be there he will be and if he don't then I don't want him. You got to remember the important person here is you and you should always watch your back and make sure your happy. Enjoy life and don't worry about one little old guy. there is plenty more where that one come from
2006-11-30 11:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're picking the wrong guys, they are just using you. Learn to find someone that truly cares about you, and not just a player giving lip service (no pun intended). Remember, bad boys know what women want to hear. Yes, I know most women are gullible, but you can change if you want to. Your first clue is an urgency to start a physical relationship. I'm aware that in today's promiscuous society "true love" means sex early on. But, if he will go out with you a dozen times with no promise or encouragement of sex, then maybe you have a good one. Good luck.
2006-11-30 11:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by luv2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's like that. Lots of disappointments. But you don't need to sulk. Go out! Meet more people. You said you're shy and you think your shyness is your problem. So there, address your problem.
I read in one of the answers to SLEEP with him if that's what HE wants - NO WAY! You sleep with him, if that's what YOU want. First and foremost, love yourself. Don't allow yourself to be some man's puppet.
2006-11-30 11:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself and ask him if you can join! Show him you can go out and have a good time, he'll like that about you! Maybe show him some new places or take him out to a fancy new bar. He'll be curious and he will love having you around.
2006-11-30 11:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by branvandandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shyness may be the problem or it may not, just be more open. also you might be moving too fast, most guys are looking for a girl to date, not a girl to marry or have a kid with. now i dont know if u mentioned anything like that but moving to fast can be a problem. but all in all it sounds like u might not be open or outgoing enough.
2006-11-30 11:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by tank6904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U try to understand what he expects from u. Then satisfy him. U should not be shy, if he really wants to sleep with u then do that. Coz all men need xxx from women. So don't hesitate to sleep with him. If he sees u naked one day then he will call u daily.
2006-11-30 11:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. Maybe he is thinking that you aren't showing any interest, doesn't think you'd want to tag along on the weekend.
Talking to him will get you your answers so you can stop jumping to conclusions. You can email him if you find that easier.
2006-11-30 11:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be yourself and add some beauty to yourself. try to be serious with your school or things that promote good moral deportment and attration.. he will be backtake good care of yourself go around where he live pretend you are not into him and he will jeck and come back to you. you make things happen you are capable.
good luck
Mawuli
2006-11-30 11:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you share the same interests with him? say if he says he is going canoeing and you have never been, perhaps you could say that is something you have always been interested in learning ..might help
2006-11-30 11:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋