i have asked before a few times but he gets silent on me and turn into a turtle. am i just pushing him away ?i would like it guys answer my question also
2006-11-30 03:30:58 · 15 answers · asked by K S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep, free sex, no contract. Sounds like he's got it made in the shade.
2006-11-30 03:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll feed off of the above answers. One said he might not be ready to get married. But this is what gets me.... the excuses. Your boyfriend is willing to 'act' married by enlisting into the roommate plan of living together - and i'm sure he's receiving all of the 'benefits' of a marriage both physically and mentally. Yet when you inquire about him making the deal official with the legal "I Do's" he get's the mumble mouth.
Girlfriend puh-leese. It's true when he's ready to marry you - he will do it. But don't hold your breath. He doesn't need to rush at this point because you're already living together and giving him the milk and honey for free.
Maybe he'll come around but I think the fact that he turns silent when you inquire about marriage is all the clue that you need to tell you - he's not planning to do it anytime soon.
2006-11-30 11:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!! look you cant ask a man that to get married you have to atleast be 5 years together marriage is not to be rushed when it is time trust me if he really LOVES YOU he will notice it himself.....some dudes if you ask them they'll get scared because marriage is no joke .....you have to make sure he's faithful to you at all times, you guys have to TRUST each other cause without TRUST there is no marriage.... you know what i mean i know you love him......how bout this when you guys are out like the mall or some where go to a jewelry store and look at some rings..... that will give him some HINTS dont say anything about marriage just say you love the rings and ask the clerk to try one on...... TRUST ME he'll catch on......
sincerly.......Hitch
2006-11-30 12:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "the hard questions" and answer the questions together. It will help guys learn about each other and where your relationship could end up. Important questions are asked about marriage, children, etc. It's important to know the answers so you guys and figure out if you are on the same path and want the same things in life. I went over them with my b/f and we found out a lot about each other. We mostly want the same things and now we know that.
This approach isn't like you are pushing him towards marriage, you are just getting his thoughts about marriage so you will know.
http://www.thehardquestions.com/
From Oprah and Dr. Phil dating shows, if you aren't getting what you want, it's time to end the relationship and find someone who wants the same things as you. You don't want to marry someone who doesn't want to marry you, and you don't want to "push" someone into marriage.
2006-11-30 11:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pressure him just yet. You gotta be patient. He will ask when he is ready. I would wait at least 2 more years. I was with my wife 5 years before i proposed. Just relax and enjoy life. Unless you are planning on having kids real soon there is no rush. Pressuring him will cause arguments eventually. Patience baby patience.
2006-11-30 11:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by drockfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly what happens when people live together before marriage. what a huge mistake. when we people realize marriage comes first like the old days. Back then were less divorces and less people living together before marriage. Coincidence? i dont think so. i could go on and on and on, but i have to set the table. seriously.
2006-11-30 11:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
::sigh:: I'm female, so it is perfectly acceptable for me to wonder when we women will stop being stupid.
If he wanted to marry you, he would have.
But why should he marry you? As it is, he has everything he wants from you, and can move on whenever he feels like it. Try telling him you're done acting like an unpaid prostitute, move back in with your parents, and tell him when he's willing to marry you, you'll move back in... AFTER the ceremony. I can pretty much guarantee that will be the last time you hear from him.
2006-11-30 11:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a man that can't go the distance? Cuz it sound like you've got one. If you want a relationship to go somewhere, express your feelings in a sharing respectful convo. You two need to figure out where to go, you sound like you want to go somewhere, so figure it out- if you already have, tell him, and if he doesn't want to go there and you two can't find a common ground you might just have to split. I know you'll be leaving familiarity, but it's really about health living...
2006-11-30 11:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start asking about marriage make sure your ready for his answer. If he says no what do you plan on doing. Are you going to stay anyway or do you plan on leaving.
2006-11-30 11:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go especially if you are both happy and he is true to you. Marriage isn't something that you can talk someone into. You are young so take it slow. Marriage isn't everything and most likely will end anyway, sorry.
2006-11-30 11:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GREAT QUESTION. WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT LET ME KNOW. I THINK THAT IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO ASK HIM THIS. BUT WHEN YOU DO I SUGGEST THAT YOU DONT DO IT IN A JOKING OR SHY WAY . JUST BE LIKE" listen, we have 2 yrs together and i think it is time we take it to the next level. i have decided that i want us to be married and have a family together...or something like that . " if he thinks he can avoid that part HE SURE WILL......DONT BE LOUD BUT BE FIRM. LET HIM KNOW YOU WANT AN ANSWER NOW...BUT IN TONE NOT IN WORDS.
2006-11-30 11:35:11 · answer #11 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋