I I am in love with a girl whom i dearly love and i found out she loves me but in my religon(islam) were not?

Question

allowed to have a gf so the we began kinda going out but then then my father found out when he saw us making out in my room, so when i went home he confronted me and i told him yes i do have a gf and then he hit me with a metal pipe and he told me that how can i do such a thing when i am a muslim and is discrased at having a son like me(since haveing a gf is aginst our religon) so what am i supposed to do should i leave islam in order to be with my gf???the girl who i dearly love or should i commit suicide???- anyone wishing to contact me here is my msn- [e-mail]

Answer 1

Leaving Islam is definitely a better alternative than commiting suicide. Think of how she would feel if you did this? You would hurt her terribly.

Answer 2

Are you crazy Allah's love is much stronger than some woman's. You will love again come on step back into reality for a minute here. Seriously, because your going way too far. Its simple your father was wrong to hit you he should have EXPLAINED the situation verbally and plus if you are already Muslim then YOU should have known that they are no gf's in Islam stop talking crazy! Why did you have to be all extra and go into detail about your father hitting you like that TMI brother TMI. You know all to well that America does not like us and blames us for 9/11 and you go and make it a bit worse by typing what you said. Still confused now after you ask yourself this question I'm about to ask you THEN and only then will you know what to do.

Can this girl get you to Paradise or can worshipping Allah?

Answer 3

Listen to Nellybean, if you are truly a Muslim, you can understand the wisdom of what Islam proclaims. Think of everything that can go wrong in your infatuation with that girl. You can result in a child that will live in an unstable home, and then this child will grow up in a troubled, unstructured relationship. He may turn to crime and other illicit activities due to an improper upbringing. Islam is the only religion that makes sense in these matters. Follow you parents wishes, they are far wiser than the rest of us and obey Allah. If you only knew the horrors of the Hell fire, you would heed to Allah's wishes.

Answer 4

Hi my friend,
I believe it's not a good idea to put your question here, you could have used Islam question and answer at:
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?cref=402&ln=eng
and the Arabic version is
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?cref=402&ln=ara

If you don't wish to go there, here is my answer:
Firstly, you should know that we've all gone through this experience, it is not as bad as you think. Your father was wrong in treating you like that I think, instead he should have talked to you and tried to find a solution to your problem. But, he is still your father, and indeed he does not hate you, he just wanted to help you to the best of his knowledge. Your father is the only person who wishes you will live better life than him, think of it!

Concerning our experiences with girls, take it easy, it;s just a matter of time, when you get older, you will know that it is not really as it sounds now. You are a man isn't it, how can you think of suicide! this is only for the weak ones and indeed their weakness is not a justification for them. You should be strong and patient, think logically and do not just follow you emotions.
If you can't handle this, how can you make sure you'll be able to handle the problems that will face when you live with this girl in the future. Do not think that you will have life without problems because you two love each other. Also think, you will never get happiness forever, you may loose your beloved girl (I wish it never happen), so are you going to think of suicide that time too?!
Also note that you only have one father, if you loose him, you will not get him back, whereas with the girl, there are plenty of beautiful, kind, polite girls in this life, and if you leave something for the sake of Allah, he will certainly give it back to you and may be in a better form (in this life and in the hereafter), there are lots of stories of people who had experiences like this, for example the story of the prophet youcef who went to jail because he refused to have sex with that beautiful lady, and then at the end, he married her and they lived a happy life!
You should also know that Allah did not make something not-permissible except that it is more harmful than beneficial. I am not going to write any more, but I do recommend that you visit the above website, and you may have a similar question to yours and if not, ask the question and you will get answer inshaa Allah.
I might send you a longer and more useful answer later if I have time.
Thank you.
I hope you will solve your problem soon.
Salem

Answer 5

Let me tell you one thing ramin. You are being selfish here. I agree with you that, if at all, your father hit you with a metal pipe instead of explaining to you the wisdom behind the prohibition of keeping girl friends, then he has committed a sin. God asks everyone to understand the wisdom behind his laws. Look at the world around you...you see people taking girlfriends going on dates and then ultimately landing up in bed. After a couple of months they would have had enough of each other resulting in a breakup. Relationships nowadays are like a box of tissues. You pull out one blow your nose in it and just throw it away. Islam rejects the practise of keeping girlfriends merely because it is misuse of the human body and soul. However, Islam allows you to find the girl of your liking and immediately marry her as soon as possible for the sake of modesty. If you truly love this girl then the right thing for you to do is to hasten to marry her. That way your relationship is pure. And let me tell you that Love towards a spouse is not everything in this world. If you thing love is everything then what of the people who die without finding their soulmates? If love is everything what was their purpose in life? Try to understand that killing yourself for the sake of not getting a girl is something you will regret. Once you die, what good will be your love for the girl? Ultimately you will have to face God who created you and He will ask you why you killed yourself? God who gives life can take it away whenever He wills. And you disrespect God by taking your life when you had no right to do it. Should the poor kill themselves because they dont have money? Everyone has passions..and not all of us get what we want.Then when God punishes you in the afterlife...do you think your love for that girl would be of any use to you? You are only 16 and there is a whole life ahead of you. Think...ponder....why are you on this earth? Know that it wasnt your Will that brought you to the earth. Some other Being created you, gave you a body and taught you how to use your hands and legs. And you dare to commit suicide because you didnt get what you want? think about it.....

Answer 6

You should get married. It's allowed so long as you can support her and any resulting children. Your father was right. My son is 9 months, and I as his mother, would have beaten his butt black and blue at the age of 16 for risking his life. Unplanned pregnancies are not worth one night of passion. Same goes for my daughter. Except I'd take her, if it was less then 48 hours, to get the ECP. Oh, and I would NEVER tell her father. He wouldn't kill her, but he would probably give her the first good whipping she ever got from him. He never spanks her, spoils her rotten. But I know how he would react to that.

DOn't ruin your life. You have so much ahead of you. Finish your schooling. Get a good job. Save up some money. If you two are so in love, both of you can wait until your future is settled.

Answer 7

How many times are you gonna post this same tired question. First of you are not a Muslim. Secondly you have already stated several times in different answers and question that you are no longer a Muslim, so why do you keep referring to it as "my religion". You posted a question "i recently abandoned Islam" and that it was "full of idiots" Is that what your parents are, idiots? you are disrespecting them if nothing else. But lets face it your not cause you ain't a Muslim. Just have your alcohol, and your girlfriend stop whining and moaning and get on with it.

you need Islam, Islam does not need you.

Answer 8

you have already reported numerous time which you have left Islam, so why do you preserve relating it as "my faith" if it now no longer is your faith. You already published a query pointing out " you latterly abandoned Islam" and that Islam replace into crammed with idiots. Is that what you think of your mum and dad are "idiots"? If no longer the rest you're being deeply disrespectful to them. in case you desire to drink alcohol, have girlfriends and be like numerous different youngsters in college, do it and supply up whining approximately it. you desire Islam, Islam does not desire you. It ought to be a submission of the middle which you needless to say don't have. supply up repeating your self and get on with it then.

Answer 9

No you do not need to leave your religion. Simply make her your wife if you are not allowed a girl friend. She may or may not be Muslim but you did not say. If you love her then go for her with your heart and soul and leave the rest to Allah

Answer 10

Personally I think your story holds very little water. If you WERE a Muslim, & you know enough that having a gf isn't tolerated, then you'd also know that suicide isn't either...... To aswner your question. Don't top yourself