What if you're browsing through a dating website and you meet someone (no pics) that catches your fancy, then over time you fall deeply in love and then after some time, you both agree to meet. And to the guys, you meet a girl who's 3 feet tall, has a pinocchio nose, big cellulite, terrible teeth, body odour and cut lip..............
And to the girls, you meet a guy who is 2 feet tall, yellow disfigured teeth, 4 0' clock eyes, fat man boobs, mouth odour...........
What do you do?????? Do you still continue in the name of love or run????
2006-11-30 03:27:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone says that a relationship shouldn't be based on looks and solely it shouldn't however, the physical attraction between two people plays a huge role in a relationship. Intimacy is very important in helping maintain the relationship. It sounds terrible but I would run.
2006-11-30 03:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by jon p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked for a mature response, so here it is...
The simple, sad truth of the human condition is that a serious romantic relationship has a physical component. Physical attraction by itself is a poor reason for getting involved with someone, but the lack of it is a legitimate reason for not getting involved.
As for "falling deeply in love" with the profile on the website, love has nothing to do with that. That is merely getting excited about an ideal that one builds up in one's own mind. Love requires that you know who you're dealing with. Real love is a choice, not a feeling, and making an informed choice sometimes means keeping your emotions in check. Someone who gets carried away by feelings before getting enough information to make an informed choice is not really in love -- that's just infatuation. Now, if you can meet the short, overweight, smelly, unattractive person that you described and still be "deeply in love," that's really love.
2006-11-30 11:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similar happened to me. I met this lady in one of the chat rooms and we after chatting for a while met at a local restaurant. She must have shared with me a picture that she had taken a long time ago, because she looked at least 20 years older. Freckled skin, at least 75 pounds overweight from how she was in that picture. And that too, this picture was a glamour shot and she was no where close to as glamorous as she was in the picture. Overall, I just couldn't even recognize her when she introduced herself. I completely supressed my surprise and honored my date. Had taken flowers and a nice card for her which I still gave her. But I certainly wasn't going to take this date any forward.
The reason I say this is, I wouldn't have been as unpleasantly surprised if she had shown me her real self. She obviously lied to me - about how she looked and what her real age was.
It comes down to one thing - whether or not you are comfortable about how the person actually is and not how you perceived them to be. And if it was just about making friends, looks wouldn't matter as much. If your intent was to have a relationship or something else, looks sure do matter.
Also, there's a difference between some birth or generic deformities in a person versus something that one gets due to bad habits - not being clean, not taking care of their selves, etc. However attractive or unattractive that person looked, I'd stay away from someone who isn't willing to take time to be hygenic and in shape.
2006-11-30 11:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a difficult question --- it would depend on how you got on in person --- i suspect that someone with poor personal hygine ie poor teeth and body odour would not be compatiable with most people -- the height and looks may be discounted but the rest would grate on me something terrible
so the answer is yes i would run but only after we meet and got to know each other better
2006-11-30 11:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the truth.Sorry honey, the net sex was good.But in reality your not my type physically.To me they could market your photo as a form of birth control.Bottle your BO juice as a rape pray, because with a smell like that only a skunk could enjoy you.Sorry for the honesty,your personallity is great, but you have to work on the rest in this world to get by.
2006-11-30 11:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you do not fall in love with someone that you are chatting with as it is impossible. Secondly you always be wary of what people are telling you or saying online as they can be as you described but pretend to be something completely different. There are many users/losers on chat lines, but there are some genuine ones also. I did meet my fiance on line but we certainly did not fall in love there. We realized after chatting for a couple of months that we thought each other was cool and so she gave me her real name and phone number. After talking on phone for a couple of weeks we decided to meet face to face. After seeing each other for quite a while we then realized that we were in love with each other. But I hear so many, and read too many on here, people saying that they fell in love online that it cracks me up. If I had meet up with a gal like you described I am uncertain how I would have reacted but hopefully in mature manner and got to know her regardless.
2006-11-30 11:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship limited to email since you like the person on the inside. Then find someone else that meets your physical needs.
2006-11-30 11:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by luv2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!! What really got me is the mouth odor! Yuck. A person's lack of hygine is a big enough reason to not want to be with them in my opinion.
2006-11-30 11:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel i am a matured man 25. But I would run like h e l l
2006-11-30 11:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would continue to love this person, if you both are in love with each other then you can work out your differences. if its their physical looks that repel you at times give them advice to help them want to look better, you cant tell them how to look. Put it into a way that it wont hurt their feelings, and love them as they are helping themselves.just think of it this way... if you got into a fire and had allot of burning scars would you want someone to love you a make you feel attractive?... Well i bets that that is how they would feel. i understand if they don't help themselves, but if they cant help it then love them as they are.
2006-11-30 11:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Linds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋