Is this true?

Question

Do you think the statement"A drunk mouth speaks a sober mind" is true?My bf said some things to me after he had been drinking that hurt my feelings a little and I'm trying not to take it too personal.

Answer 1

No you should take it personal because that what he is feeling towards you !

Answer 2

Alot depends on what kind of drunk your boyfriend is.
The simple fact is though, drunk people are more honest. The problem with it is, drunk people are also rude, don't think of the consequences of their statements, and more often than not, speak of things that bother them while drunk, but they can deal with while sober. Meaning..(and this is a made up example) If you boyfriend is slightly insecure regarding your friend "Adam"... Sober, your boyfriend can deal with it. Drunk, you're boyfriend may say something VERY VERY mean regarding "Adam", your friendship with "Adam", how he views "Adam", and where he wish "Adam" would go. It's not really that he can't deal with the situation with "Adam"...he can... he just can't deal with it while drunk.

In other words, drunk boyfriends, or girlfriends for that matter, although honest, also tend to take things too far, and say things without considering the feelings of the person they talk to.

I would talk to him about what he said to you. The best idea is to confront him while sober, and ask him how he feels about it NOW. Tell him what he said, tell him it hurt your feelings, but also ask him what he really feels about it. I would have to guess he'll admit to having an issue with "it", but will also backtrack slightly and come up with a better way of discussing it.

Hope that helps

MJ

Answer 3

Have you ever been drunk? My guess would be no. My suggestion is to get drunk and see for yourself. I can tell you from my experiences that it is absolutely false. When you are drunk is when you say and do things that you some times regret the next day. That's why I watch how much I drink. But in the past I have had some stupid fights with friends because I got drunk and started running off at the mouth. So, let it go, chances are he regrets everything he said and feels like crap about it.

Answer 4

In some cases I do think that, that statement is true,But I also think that maybe it's just because the person is drunk. Try reminding your boyfriend of what he said to you if he doesn't remember and explain to him how it made you feel and that you would appreciate it if he would start thinking before he speaks. Don't take it personal right now, it could of been just the alcohol talking but if he continues with it even after you've told him your stance on it, then you should take it personal and deal with the situation. Best to you and good luck =)

Answer 5

Lets be honest we all have that darkside to us. And yes when we are drunk or high we tend to say what is on our minds or what is bothering us about someone or something. I have always said that we all think of doing bad things the measure of a man or woman is their ability to resist these temptations. Drugs loosen that ability to resist. Don't judge him to harshly. Take this as an opportunity to talk. Obviously, he has had whatever he was feeling bottled up for a reason. Maybe he felt he would hurt your feelings or you wouldn't listen to him or many other reasons but I think you are better served by bringing out other things he may have stored up. Get some open dialogue started. Let him know he can speak on things he may like or not like about you without a backlash from the openess. Women always say that they want their man to communicate but they run, get upset, or don't listen when we do. So show him you ain't no punk and can take it as well as dish it. Some communication is always needed in any level of relationship. SO get to yappin!

Answer 6

I think that you do have to take it seriously but not personally....make sure to ask him about it without judging because some drunks can just be smartass' instead of serious people. Getting drunk loosens your inhibitions and allows you to do things you might not have meant to do or normally would have done....so just be open and honest...trust me the not knowing and wondering if you should talk to him about it will eat you up far worse than the answer will in the long run. And the not knowing could cause you to build up hostility towards him that if you had confronted in the first place could possibly have been avoided.

Answer 7

It completely depends on the person.

Some people who drink just get mean, which means that they'll say anything that wanders into their mind even momentarily just to be abusive.

For others, alcohol loosens the tongue and they're able to say what they're really thinking.

Has he gotten drunk before? What are his habits when he's drunk? Does he say things that you know he doesn't believe, or does he say things that you've seen him hint at but never come out with?

There is no "one size fits all" definition of how people behave when drinking.

Answer 8

Take what he said seriously.

Alcohol lowers the natural inhibition and walls we have in our day to day lives. Where sober a person refrains from saying things they know they shouldn't, even if they're true .... when drinking, they don't stop to think about reprecussions and just say what they're thinking. The most honest you'll find someone is when they are drinking.

Answer 9

I've heard that this statement is true. They say alcohol is like a truth serum. So depending on what your bf said he may be saying what he doesn't have the balls to say sober.

Answer 10

Truth comes out of the mouths of drunks!

Answer 11

I have said some stupid things at some drunkin times....I wouldn't worry about it...true feelings don't always come out in a drunk state...give him the chance to make it up to you, and if he doesn't then the comments where probably from the heart.