My husband works second shift and isn't always around durring the week. She has always been closer to me because he isn't always home but lately she won't pay any attention to her father. If he picks her up she cries and pushes him away. If I tell her to hug him she won't. What do I do. I know he hasn't done anything negative to her because I'm always home with them when he's around. Should I leave them alone so she has to depend on him for things? His feelings are realy hurt. I don't want them to drift apart. He loves her so much.
2006-11-30 02:27:31 · 13 answers · asked by kls080407 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Its just because he's not around her enough! He needs to spend more time with her. Plus she is young she will grow out of it! Most girls grow up to be daddy's girls anyway! At least most of mine did. Tell your husband that this is just a phase that children go through, it WILL pass!
2006-11-30 02:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter who is almost 7 months. Her father is not around that much either.Due to the fact that I am still in school. she went though the same thing that your daughter is going though but they will get over it. It is just somthing they go though. I would just give your husband some more time with your daughter. They will not drift apart. She knows that he is her father and that will never change. she knows that he loves her.
2006-11-30 02:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to spend more time with her, some family time outside the home is a good idea, after he has been spending more time with her then let them do something together without you for an afternoon or so. Encourage her to talk to him, and don't coddle that behavior. She will come around, also make a big deal when he gets home from work, get excited and make sure you welcome him with hugs and kisses and she will follow.
2006-11-30 02:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by crissyk24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it sounds to me like she needs to spend more time with him. She probably feels very attached to you if you are with her all day. Instead of leaving her alone with him and having her cry the whole time and making it hard for dad to deal. Try a nice family game like Simon says and use thing like "Simon says hug daddy", and you could do it as well. Maybe family games like that would help her be closer to him and she would know that hes there for her. Also it could just be a stage that she will grow out of I remember when I was little my mother could not even go to the bathroom with out me freaking out needing to be right with her. It was a bad stage that I went threw but I grew out of it. Good luck to you
2006-11-30 02:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to allow them to spend as much alone time together as you can. And when he picks her up and she starts crying and pusing him away, tell him to not put her down and don't take her out of his arms. He needs to keep holding her til she stops crying. Eventually, she will learn to trust him and will associate him as a parent figure again.
Also, when she's quiet and playing by herself and your husband is home, get him to periodically sit on the floor with her, or wherever she may be, and play with her. Or just talk to her. It will help :)
2006-11-30 02:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal reaction, since she spends more time with you and it more dependant on you for all her needs. Spend time together as a family as much as possible and share quality time doing fun things. She'll come around.
2006-11-30 02:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your assumption is right. Try and leave your husband alone with your daughter. You will see the change in their relationship.
2006-11-30 02:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by katerina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is like this towards her dad. I think its a phase. Soon enough she will ignor you and run to daddy.
I still just encourage my daughter to sit with daddy too.
2006-11-30 02:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry..she just doesn't feel she knows him...he's like a stranger to her.... i had the same experience with my father(he is a sailor)...when i was baby every time i saw him i just started crying for no reason...yes you could leave them some time together to bond...good luck
2006-11-30 02:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her a lone for a few hours a day and she will start to depend on him
2006-11-30 02:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋