2006-11-30 02:16:29 · 28 answers · asked by Babygurl Alex!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, there are three things wrong.
2006-11-30 02:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes especially if you already asking that question. Thats for you to decide. Weigh the good with the bad. You can find a knuckle head with no kids just as easily. Obviously,you have some concerns. If you do I would suggest you talk with him about them. It's best to iron things out now before they get to serious cause then he will be like you knew this from the beginning why didn't you say something then. IM me maybe I can help more if I had a better idea of what your concerns are. Hell I have two kids myself.
2006-11-30 02:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong unless he has a wife along with the kids. If he is divorced then fine. (or was never married) Just be careful, don't get close to the children until you are sure he is for you. (they can get hurt) And you have to recognize that his kids are a big part of his life--don't try to come between that. He might be a really great guy and a lot of women will be scared off from finding out. Try it, you never know.
2006-11-30 02:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by artimis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with dating him as long as you can accept the fact he has kids and if the relationship turns to marriage you will be their Step-Mother. Think of it this way if you fall in love with him you have to accept that he is a package deal. Let him do the parenting for now and act as if you are the aunt that gets to spoil them. I dated a guy with two kids and I married him, the kids are great and yes I do have them pick up after themselves and tell them to knock it off when they fight but I leave the grounding to him. We have 'Family" talks and discussions when we are planning things so they don't feel left out and they understand that I am not their Mom but I am a good friend as well as their Step-Mom. When it comes to their Mother, let her feel that she is still their Mom and that you reassured the kids of that, but tell her that you can love them just as much and make them feel safe. If you don't plan on having a long term relationship with this guy, don't get attached to the kids. It will break their hearts when you leave the relationship. They will feel they are the reason you left (if they like you). Good Luck and enjoy your man and his lovely little package.
2006-11-30 02:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it's not good. It's best to not date a divorced man unless you know that the circumstance is that his wife was unfaithful and not he, himself - that being the reason for the divorce. Not good odds, overall.
Here are some of the vows that married people take, and that they're supposed to mean:
"For better or for worse...in sickness and in healthy, for richer or for poorer - until death do they part."
Messing around with divorced people is something that you can't take lightly. There's always a chance that the couple could reunite, and you shouldn't be getting in the way, or even be a distraction from people looking at their failing from upholding their vows.
If there are children in the picture, that only complicates things further.
2006-11-30 02:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say there is anything WRONG with it but it is a little hard and awkward dealing with a guy that a child or children. I, myself, is engaged to a man that has a daughter. I hate the fact that I, as well as him, have to deal the mother of that child even though they arent together. They share a bond----that child. And they always will until life on Earth is through for them. I would just tell you to be careful and know what you're getting yourself into.
2006-11-30 02:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually no,as long as he has his stuff together I've dated afew men in the past thats had children,and main problem I usually encountered was the exwife or babymama or whatever didn't have her act together so it affected his life as well.
I hadta stop seeing this one guy because he was to busy fighting for full child custody because his exwife and kids got kicked out of her boyfriend's home who happened to be a heroin addict.
So at times it can be a hassle but you gotta decide if he's worth it!
2006-11-30 02:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. If he was rich I would say I would but if he is not he could not afford me. Three kids takes a lot to support so either he is and is broke or he is not and he has money but either way three is too many and I would be worried that he may want another with me and I would say heck no.
2006-11-30 02:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he divorced? I'll assume he is. The main things you have to consider:
1) If you're planning long-term, and you want kids of your own, what are the chances that he'll still want more?
2) He may have to spend a lot of time with them (which might mean less time with you).
3) He may still have emotional / physical / material ties to his ex-wife, and how will that make you feel?
2006-11-30 02:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is the guy? How old are the kids? Do they live with him or with their mother[s]? And the answer would be no there is nothing wrong with it...just be prepared for the baggage, and I do not mean that in a disrespectful way..it's just a fact.
2006-11-30 02:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe things didnt turn out for him in his past life...everybody deserves a second chance from life...there is nothing wrong with dating a guy with kids already if u like his kids and dont have problems accepting them as your own...hopefully this life experience tought him something and he will be smarter with the next girl...
2006-11-30 02:22:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋