Were involved with the police. I have to make a phone call to try to get him to confess. He lives with my parents. My parents know my brother tried but it didnt get that far. Turns out it got much further,involving mouths. My parents are angry and on my side but Im sure they expect me to "let it blwo over". Theyll be so mad,Im sure. I wish I could give them heads up so theyre not shocked with cps or police show up. Were very close. But if I tell them theyll give my brother a heads up and there goes the case of trying to protect other kids from him. Im not happy Im doing this,I was very close to my brother,but this is unacceptable and my son needs to know speaking up will give him results. What am I to do about my parents? How do I keep cool when they put the heat on me?
2006-11-30 02:14:13 · 20 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your child comes first. what kind of parent would you be if you let your parents intimidate you. protect your child. doing the RIGHT thing is not always easy. Stand your ground. they might not like it but they will respect you for it inspite of themselves. besides,think of the heart ache of your child knowing you would not protect him and punish your brother for doing that to him if you didn't take action. you are doing the right thing for everyone involved. your brother needs help as well as your child needing help from you & protection. and as you said, what about other children? and as for your parents, what kind of parents are they to you & granparents to him if they tried to Stop you from doing what is right for your child who can't protect himself?? think about that. so do what you have to and feel good about it. you may be stopping a cerial molester.
2006-11-30 02:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by eyepopping hideous female troll 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a old post but I am too tryn to research this, I was molested by my older brother when I was 12 all to age 15. An he was in his late 20's. It was a horrible experience!! Someone I looked up to, ruined my life. My mom knew an did nothing about it an I still resent her to this day, I see my brother all the time an it tears at all the old wounds… I honestly hv no respect or love for that man, I do not call him my brother or family! Bc of him I'm terrified of men an my sex life with men is nonexistent, I'm lesbian.. I feel he pushed me towards it. (I rather b with a woman) ur daughter may hold alotta anger an resentment to both u an her brother, I'd call the cops on him. Wrong is wrong Idc how old he was at the time!! Get her into see a shrink bc it's been helping me, or maybe a 'intervention' as a family put it out in the open. No judgment, just discuss it. These kinda things will mess anyone up an will in the future cause alotta problems for her. Protect her an call cops!!
2016-05-23 04:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your parents how they would feel if someone had done this to their son? If they are so set on protecting him has an adult whom did something so horrible how would they have felt if this was done to him when he was your sons age.I feel for you I have been the child in your sons position and it isn't easy especially when the abuser is a family member. But, you duty is to your son and no one else here.You need to do what ever it takes to show him that what was done to him is not his fault and that it is not o.k. for someone to do this to him.He has to know that you don't blame him for anything and that you will take his side and do what you have to to protect him no matter what.Personally has a mother of a little boy myself I wouldn't care if it was my Brother he would pay period.And that is saying a lot considering my brother is not just a sibling he is my twin and was my best friend and protector growing up.I don't know about were you live but were I do if a mother or father knows their child committed a crime they can be tried for accessory and or obstructing justice.I know it is harsh but he has to be stopped one way or the other people like this won't stop on their own.
2006-11-30 07:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough situation. I am so sorry that you are facing this. The best advice I could give you is to just sit down with your parents, after the police have been there, and tell them how you feel. It isn't right for you to cover up something just because you are family. Your brother needs help and needs to face the consequences of such horrible behaviour. You are making the right decision. Tell them you are thinking of your son and other children. How would your son feel if he knew you knew what happened, but you didn't do anything? Your son is more important to you than someone who would do what was done.
2006-11-30 02:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and your son. If you are that concerned that your parents would tell your brother, they need NOT know. You can have a heart to heart talk with them after your brother has been charged properly by the law. I'm sure you have done your research and know that child molesters do not stop at one, its a sickness and you are helping your brother by turning him in and getting him help. ALSO as a mother, you are doing what is necessary to protect your child and he should come first no matter what.
2006-11-30 02:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT tell your parents becuase they are very liable to make the wrong decision- which is defend him. I've seen it happen- it's happened to me. So don't tell them whatever you do, they'll just have to roll with it. If your parent can't see the light of the truth or don't choose to and in turn are mad at you for some ungodly reason, be prepared. Also be prepared to make the decision for the good of you and your child- which is separate yourselves from any of your family that disagrees with your decision to care for the best of yourself and your family. Its cold but it's true and it when it all boils down, you do what you know you have to no matter how hard it might be. You aren't there to mediate or make things better, you're there to defend yourself and your son for somebody else's wrong. Your parents should also know when to say "My child has done wrong and he needs to be punished rightfully no matter who he is".
2006-11-30 02:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. This IS unacceptable, and you must look out for your child first and foremost. If your parents don't see this, so be it. They may be mad, but if they have any common sense they will come around to realize that they can not stick up for your brother under these circumstances. Do what you have to do and stand your ground. Good luck.
2006-11-30 02:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry Garcia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your young son depends on you for protection. HE is your responsibility. Have the scum that molested him arrested. If your 'family' can't see that's what needs to be done you need to get them out of your sons life too. How many other kids does he have to molest before they think he should be locked up? Don't worry about keeping your cool! Do what is right.
2006-11-30 02:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Stick to Pet Rocks 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about you son. My brother also is a pedophile and is currently in prison (Were he belongs) It was pretty tough on my parents. They went to his trial and had to hear all of the gorry details of the case. Your parents will understand that you have to do what you have to do to protect your child. Don't worry about them too much they are adults after all. Take care of your son.
2006-11-30 02:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Belinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents need to be reminded that they're walking a fine line by possibly aiding and abetting a criminal. I'm sorry you're in this position with your brother...that stinks.
When it comes to certain things, blood is NOT thicker than water...sadly, some people will protect family above and beyond what's right.
2006-11-30 02:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋