Her long-distance boyfriend is on a trip visiting her for a month, and is 1. jealous of her puppy and 2. taking it out on her, saying that he doesn't like dogs and she didn't include him in her decision enough. Its bringing other issues to the forefront that have been dormant, but basically its coming down to the dog or the boyfriend.
Keep in mind this dog is 5 months and (in my opinion) fantastic.
2006-11-30 02:03:05 · 19 answers · asked by sjbchapman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dog of course!!! if the guy is jealous of the dog - he is crazy
2006-11-30 02:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Never heard that one before.
First of all... the boyfriend needs to realize that she probably bought the dog, for companionship, while he's gone... having a puppy, is much better than having a second boyfriend. He should be made aware of that.
Second.. obviously this guy has enough other issues that he has to blame the problems of their entire relationship on a puppy. Don't get me wrong...I do understand what this guy is going through. Your friend is focusing alot of attention on the puppy... it's just like having a child. They need constant attention and love. The boyfriend is jealous because it's attention he USED to get.
If she wants to stay with him, she needs to learn to balance her attention for the puppy and him.
BUT... since he's seemingly giving her an ultimatum... Drop the boyfriend. A few reasons...
One, this guy can't seem to address the real problem.
Two, he's saying, either the puppy goes, or I go... without trying to work out a compromise with her.
Three, what's the point of dating a guy that can't resolve issues in a meaningful way, that is beneficial to the overall relationship, not just his personal feelings? What would happen if they got married, or had children and suddenly he feels like he's not the center of her world? Would he again threaten to leave if the child isn't put up for adoption?????
He sounds very immature.
The dog, will give your friend endless amounts of unconditional love. She should keep the dog, regardless of her relationship working out.
Good luck to your friend.
MJ
2006-11-30 02:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PICK THE DOG. It sounds like he is controlling, jealous, and if thats only one of the problems in the relationship- it sounds like the relationship is too stressful-you only live once. Besides, the average lifespan of a strong relationship stands at 6-7 years. Dogs live for 10-15 years and are sometimes more loyal, loving, and protective than the man, not to mention cuter and more intelligent Ha! lol
2006-11-30 02:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joe m. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was someone I could talk to easily about anything, there was mutual respect, trust, shared goals for the future, common interests, a commitment to work at the relationship & not allow issues to become immovable obstacles & passion, then I would choose my boyfriend. Why? A mature, reasonable adult would never stoop to ultimatums or treat with me so little respect that they would expect me to give up my dogs because it pleased them. My dogs & I are a package deal *unless* there was a compelling reason why one or both of my dogs should be homed to a trusted close family member.
2016-05-23 04:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship that ended for me I always took the dog. im sure that she said she had a dog he should of said something then If she does choose him he will make her choose over him and friends family it is a cycle. She needs to choose the dog. By the way Your the next choice he will have her make sorry i know this from personal exsperience. He wants to alienate her from others so he mess with her mind. He is not a nice person she needs to get out NOW! If she does have to make the choice and makes the wrong one keep watch for her and if she realizes she made the wrong one forgive her she is going to need you in the end cause he is going to mess her up in ways you dont even want to imagine.
2006-11-30 02:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the dog. Dogs are loyal and will always be there to for you. If a boyfriend is acting like that, why would you want someone like that as a partner. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour.
2006-11-30 02:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your friend needs to take a good look, maybe try talking to her boyfriend about the dog, how could a dog be a threat to the boyfriend? What are his issues?
2006-11-30 02:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this man has CONTROL issues that will travel far and wide into her entire life if she doesn't get rid of him. The dog isn't the real issue and never will be.....the man will eventually become abusive in every way toward her trying to gain that control. This is only the beginning.
2006-11-30 02:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dog. If he's getting jealous over a dog... then do you really think he's worth the time? She can make her own decisions if she wants to, he shouldn't have to hold her back just because he's "jealous."
2006-11-30 02:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by tisashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they are living together I don't think he has the right to really voice his opinion much about the dog......WTF......Is she asking him for puppy support?
2006-11-30 02:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋