Don’t get me wrong …
I am Okay to invite a close friend time to time… its actually a pleasure.
But , if a guy ( your potential lover …or maybe –not..) just on second day let U pay ..
What does it means???
/- Considering that he is 35 and not poor at all…/
He invites me for dinner tonight . And I am wandering if I have to “ take” a money.
Is it weird of me to expect of men, who want to date me, to take care about bills JUST when we go out???
I did not date for a long time …
Is something change in the modern “dating world” ?????
2006-11-30 02:00:30 · 21 answers · asked by awg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is of course a double standard for women to pursue carers and make money on equal terms with men and not want to pay on equal terms. But the fact is that heterosexual relationships seldom works unless the man makes the most money. And unless you want some submissive "little" guy, you ought not consider any man who won't/can't pay on your dates a prospective mate.
2006-11-30 02:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ivar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my rule when it comes to new dates:
Whoever does the asking does the paying.
If I ask then I have every intention of paying, and if he puts up a stink about it I say some like, 'Listen I had a good time, and I asked you out, so if you want to pay your just going to have to ask me next time." (that's if I want to go on another date...) Normally I let the guy do the asking it's one of the ways I tell if he's a keeper or not. If A guy asks you out then wants you to pay for 1/2 of it? Please!!! Doesn't seem like much of a gentleman to me.
With my boyfriend & I, (he's military) he paid for our first 5 or 6 dates. After we were a bit more established & comfortable with each other we started doing more of the 50/50 thing. I make a lot more money then him. If I didn't, I don't think he would have ever let me pay for anything. But I like what we have, I feel like it's more of a partnership now. Don't get me wrong I love to be treated out, but I love spoiling him just as much...It feels good.
2006-11-30 03:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you date someone you should always take enough money just in case you need it. If a guy is going to take you to dinner you should ask where he is going to take you unless you tells you the date is on him. The reason being that you don't want to be caught short of money. In addition, always take enough money in case you have to take a taxi back home. With some guys you never know. As far as this trend being normal....no. Most guys will not allow the girl to pay for her dinner. If the guy is any sort of a gentleman he will treat the girl like a lady and do the proper thing. It all depends on the guy and what you know or don't know about him.
2006-11-30 02:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would pay for mine and she can pay for hers. Your not married so why fuss. You don't need to try and empress her by paying for her stuff. If she asked you out she obviously likes you already. Just focus on being good company and getting a better understanding of the girl rather than the bill LOL
2016-05-23 04:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your just starting to date this guy and HE asks you out, he should pay. You should however offer to pitch it or at least cover the tip. This is what I did when my boyfriend and I dated and he was extremely impressed!
If you ask him out, then you should pay.
Once your in a relationship, you should both agree on how you want to go about it. With my boyfriend, whoever has the money pays.
2006-11-30 02:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship it is good too cut your man some slack and take him out every once in a while or maybe even the third date. But he should offer to pay first. Sounds like he's cheap.
2006-11-30 02:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 from Costa Rica, Central America, and I will tell you that when dating a girl here, while I think I should pay for two, people in their twenties think they should go 50-50 always.
2006-11-30 02:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's weird for him to let you have paid unless you insisted. No, don't carry any money if he has invited you and don't offer to pay. Modern dating is no different from the old dating.
2006-11-30 02:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the new rule is whoever asked for the date has to pay. I still think the man needs to be a gentleman and pay.
2006-11-30 02:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what was said when setting up the dinner. If one of you said "let's go hang out tonight. How about we grab something to eat", then I'd say no, he can't be espected to pay, but if the question was "would you like to go out for dinner tonight?" Then I'd say your expectations of being treated are dead on.
2006-11-30 02:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋