The coach just told him and another two boys, that they can't play.
I'm so upsept, he was really excited about it. Do you think I'm over reacting? or should I talk to his coach. My son hasn't say anything, but I know he's hurt. He is a pre-teen
Serious answers only. Thank you
2006-11-30 01:57:51 · 12 answers · asked by star 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It would be a good idea to talk to the coach, but don't try to change his mind, just get the facts as to why he can't play. Then you can help your son work on what is important - either his math or his basketball skills. You didn't say which was the deciding factor why he couldn't play so I'm assuming you don't really know why. Talking to the coach will help you understand why and go from there. I know it's traumatic to a kid, but if more work is needed he should understand that and be willing to go for it. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 02:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by matters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did the coach tell him he couldn't play?
How does your son behave at school-behind your back when it is just him and his peers? Dont tell us what you dont know for absolutely certain...
Anyway, talk to your son to be sure that you are'nt just making a bigger deal out of this than he is. If he gets on the team because his mom "Fought his battles," he might just get a miserable experience out of it form his team members.
If other boys were also turned down then perhaps the team roster is full, or else it was too late to join the team.
Talk to the coach calmly and rationally, dont go accusing and ready to make verbal attacks on people (not saying you would, But some parents just go off the wall over little league sports)
Find out why your son cant play and when the next time he would be able to play is (Next year perhaps?)
Then look into getting your son on a communty team, like at the YMCA or the City Recreational Team.
Remind yourson that if he'd had good grades from the get-go he wouldn't have missed his initial CHANCE-not a sure thing but a chance-to join the team. Help him with his homework and make sure he practices basketball so when next year comes around, He can show the Coach he deserves a spot on the team.
If you cant get him on a team dont worry about it too much, dont make a big deal about it. Remind him that there is more to life then sports. And that not everything will go his way all the time-
(I wasn't able to play Softball when I wanted too, I know it hurts and that he'll feel that pang of regret for a few years, maybe even always. But I am okay now, and dont feel a break down coming anytime soon.)
Also try and get him interested in a few other things. Like:
Photography
Art
Music
Collecting cards, stamps, shells, postcards, etc...
Get him a short term pet (some thing that lives about 5 years and under RODENTS)
Introduce him to a book series to keep him interested
Or maybe buy him a Video Game
Monitor his interest in all these things. Dont have him obsessed or absorded with one thing. Have him spread his passions out.
2006-11-30 03:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he fail the test? Is that why he can't play? If he passed the class then he should be allowed to play. If not, then usually they won't let you unless you keep a certain grade point average. I'm very sorry your son is going through this because it shows you and your son care and so many other parents would just punish or ignore the problem. Talk to the teacher and the coach, see what he needs to get into playing. It is such a great thing to set goals, help him reach them! Maybe he needs help in the class, maybe you can help him or a tutor. Good luck to you and your boy. I just read a question that made me so angry that it's good to see a parent who CARES! Congrats to you on that, with you in his corner your son can go very far in life. When it gets hard remember that.
2006-11-30 05:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-13 01:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the reasoning behind this coaches decision to not let the boys play? I would definatly talk to this coach! I mean, if he isn't that good, he could always let him suit up. Most middle school kids don't have to "try-out" for basketball so I don't understand this.
2006-11-30 02:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many schools expect certain grades in order to play on a team and I think that's a great idea.
2006-11-30 02:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the coach and ask deeply why your son could not be in the basketball team...Talk to the coach until you're satisfied
2006-11-30 02:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by AndyPandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Contact the coach and find out why your son was not included.
If his grades are bad and they are that way due to a learning disability then request that you, the teacher, your son, and the coach sit down together and make a plan to make it so your son can play.
2006-11-30 02:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is all just a part of life. what is the reason that he can't play? i would talk to the coach about it calmly and try to find the reason behind it and what your son should do to be able to play. Good luck.
2006-11-30 02:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends did he get a good grade on the math test? if he did than that maybe is why the coach wouldnt let him play. if he got a good grade i would talk to the coach about why he wouldnt let him play.
2006-11-30 02:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋