or is it something else...anyone who knows my questions will know that i have an interest in human behaviour...one thing i wonder is whether when we are looking for Mr/Mrs right...are we looking for happily ever after emotionally or is it a biological/survival of the fittest instinct that we are probably unaware of that keeps us always looking for that perfect match???...i think its instinctive behaviour personally...what do you think? ...;0)
2006-11-30 01:45:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lullaby...im British and can asure you the fact that he is doesnt make him a prince,lol...men here are the same as anywhere else...sorry...;0)
2006-11-30 01:49:15 · update #1
Hmmmmmmn .... good question ... I think that as a species we are moving so far away from what our natural instinct was .. that we no longer even know what it is ... so I would say ..its maybe a bit of both ... consciously anyway.
As for the perfect match ... Isn't that something women use as an excuse to stay free and single ..? ...and enjoy dating ..? after they have been burned..?
you don't often hear guys talking about Mrs Right...
Although there's nothing wrong with enjoying life .. just be honest.
The jobmarket is an employers market...
the dating game .. is really a woman's playground...
Meeting mister right ...is as likely as winning the lottery for most people .... he will only be right for a few years if your lucky.
..but some people win the lottery ... just like some people meet mr/mrs right ...!!
Dr Bad
Mr Right NOW!!!
2006-11-30 09:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think people really look for princes and princesses, the ideal partner, the perfect match, because we know the perfect match doesn't actually exist. We would like them to, but the fact is there are no two people that would go together easily and effortlessly to that degree.
Deep down we are all aware that the perfect partner doesn't exist, because relationships take work at one stage or another, people change over time and as they get older, so frankly wroking at a relationship and adjusting to each other's shortcomings and loving one another regardless is the only way they last.
We may want, and fantasise about perfect partners, but I don't think anyone realistically looks for them.
Would you believe that I consider myself a romantic?LOL
2006-11-30 02:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think the Cinderella movie ruined it for all of us. Yeah, we're really looking for that. Sometimes we find it, and it lasts a really long time, like 10+ years. But then we go into shock when it's suddenly work, effort, and not the happily ever after anymore. Most of us are raised, in one way or another to believe that is what life has in store for us - happily ever after with the right person.
2006-11-30 01:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't speak for anyone else but personally i have to be the one to make myself happy and not depend on someone else to fill those needs emotionally...love is great, don't get me wrong, but i think the problem is more than people have unrealistic expectations of themselves and of the one they hook up with in most cases. very few people go into a relationship as their authentic self..not everyone has a fairy tale view of this happily ever after stuff but some of us are mature enough to know that if you do go into a relationship as your real self, date someone long enough and ask the right questions, and then work at the relationship, happily ever after is attainable
so to answer your question, a little bit of both, not much of either lol
2006-11-30 01:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Have you ever watched something funny and not laughed out loud, or laughed out loud when alone? It is really strange. We are a social animal and need somebody with us.
As for looking for that special someone it is more emotional that drives us to find them. I don't think it really has to do with survival of the fittest as we have a conciousness that drives us.
2006-11-30 01:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jon B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because people are usually too damned lazy to work on themselves to the point where they're happy alone and just want somebody to share their joy with, these days. It's all about somebdoy else making you complete; and when that doesn't work out, you want the other person to pay(literally or figuratively) for your lack of judgement...very sad and so unfulfilling.
2006-11-30 01:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people waste to much time looking for something that they have made up in their head and wonder why they can not find it in the real world. Stop looking people and live life what ever is ment to come will.
2006-11-30 01:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, most women that are looking for 'Prince Charming' fail to display any of the charming qualities found in Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty. It has to work both ways.
2006-11-30 01:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its in our nature to get a euphoric feeling when you feel that you have found the one or when your in "love" when endorphins are released in to your body and you mix it with adrenaline you cant help whats going to happen so all in all your always looking for that Mr./ Mrs. Right you cant help it your body does it subconsciously
2006-11-30 01:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all simply programmed to seek a mate. It is the biological imperative. However, we can override some of that conditioning through the discipline of our minds.
2006-11-30 01:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋