Ok i recently just broke up with my girlfriend, because i found out she cheated on me when my mom sent me to a treatment facility. She always used to tell me that she would never do that, and she knows what it's like to be cheated on. So when i found out, i just busted her out on it, so she wouldn't have anytime to think. She admitted to it but said the other person did something she didn't, and after 20 more of the same question she admitted that she was apart of it to. I don't think it's so much as that she did it, i just think it is very shitty that she acts like since she got away with it for a year i shouldn't be mad. All i want is honesty, and someone not to cheat on me. Now she is mad that i am breaking up with her and harrassing me, and telling me i am making a mistake, and telling me i am stupid for being mad. She is trying to manipulate me. I feel as if i need someone though, a companion. Should i jump into another relationship now? Or should i sit and be sad and depressed?
2006-11-30 01:32:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, do you love her?
If you know you can be without her, then it was already over before you posted your question.
If you do love her, then give yourself some time to heal.
Personally I left a boyfriend a few years ago and then went on the rebound. I slept with a guy the very next day. And then eventually got back with the boyfriend. So then we had the problem of him being upset that I had been with the other guy. He still holds it against me and says that I cheated on him.
So my point is before you decide to get another girlfriend, you should take some time to be sad and lonely, dont get a rebound girl, and make sure that there is no way you guys will be getting back together before moving on.
2006-11-30 01:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by I am Crystal S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When leaving a relationship weather good or bad, you should seek another fresh relationship.By fresh I mean don't bring the baggage with you.Your starting fresh.
The best think with the old relationship is to leave it as an old relationship.You respect the other person, but do not go out of your way to keep apart of it going.
If the other person Perseus you, you become busy every time they show up."sorry I can not talk, I have to go" is enought of an answer.
2006-11-30 01:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time alone, get comfortable with just being yourself without the complications a relationship can bring. You have to find a way to be happy in the absence of a partner or you will keep jumping from one bad relationship to another.
Leave that girl alone, I would politely request she stop calling, visiting and trying to contact you in any way. If that ceases you can obtain a restraining order on grounds of harassment.
2006-11-30 01:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she cheated on you for a year then she probably will do it again!if you jump into another relationship its not going to be fair to the other woman because you'll still be thinking of the one that cheated ! anyway give yourself a little time! go out have some fun meet new ppl! you never no what might come along!
2006-11-30 01:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by brown_eyed_girl_2_0_0_6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be neither obversly you done the right thing in braking up with her as if she can lye to you what else is there that she can not do. i do not believe that you should rush into an other relationship either otherwise the same may happen again what you need to do is go out on the town socialise a little if you meet someone get to know them first and see if you have anything in common. you'll be fine mate she not worth it to be depressed.
2006-11-30 01:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not games. You don't just jump out of one and into another. Your goal should be to seek out your soulmate. chances of you just jumping into a relationship and finding her are very slim. You must understand that the very thing your running away from is what your trying to run in to. A BROKEN HEART! Take time and learn more about yourself. Hang out with friends, guys and girls, figure out what you want in life. If you don't want to be lonely, be patient and find the right one that you will spend the rest of your life with
2006-11-30 01:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with friends & family. When you're a little more settled you'll find someone new. Do not rush into a relationship because you "need a companion" <---addictive behavior! You have enough to deal with right now, demand that she leave you alone! Congrats on your achievment, & good luck to you!
2006-11-30 01:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot go back to her if you dont trust her. You need to tell her she needs to earn your trust again. Trust is the foundation to any good relationship. Give yourself some time and do not rebound into another relationship so quickly because you could end up hurting someone else or yourself again. Surround yourself with freinds, especially women that you enjoy spending time with but do not make any commitments right now. Ease yourself back into it slowly and take your time. Good luck!
2006-11-30 01:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit around and be depressed...jk...let her know that she hurt you. But dont move on right away because then it seems like you dont care. Overall go with what you think is right and sincere. But dont mope about it. Move on with your life, Im sure you have a lot comming for you.
2006-11-30 01:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by fireman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her actions during a time that you really needed support, are very questionable. You need somebody that is supportive and thinks of your best interests. She kicked you when you were down. That is not love! Think about it.......you know the answer!
2006-11-30 01:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋