I have been thinking about having another baby, this would be our 3rd. My husband says no. But a few months ago, we had a little scare and we were both kind of disappointed when I started. I cant get him on board with me and I cant just say OK no more kids then just because thats what he wants. I also need to know what questions to ask myself as to why I would like to have a 3rd child. My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 6 and I work from home. Financially we are ok, not really struggling but not rich by any means. PLEASE HELP ME AND HUBBY MEET IN THE MIDDLE???
2006-11-30 01:31:37 · 13 answers · asked by Ana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well i was there. im a stay at home mom with my 3 and 2 year old. i wanted another one in a way but did not say anything. i would kid around and ask my husband what he would name another baby if we had one and he would laugh and say were not having anymore. then we too had a scare. it seemed we were both unhappy that we were not having another baby. i told him then that i wanted another one and at first he said no then we talked and i told him that there was love enough for one more and that we should follow our hearts. he said he wanted one but did not want me to have to go through that again. ( i have had to really scary labors and delievery) i told him that i was not afraid and really wanted another one and so did he. we are now 12 weeks pregnant with our third and could not be happier. . im a stay at home mom by choice. i don't have to work and we are secure to say the least. but love has move value then money and if you have the love to give then you should make a baby. Try to see things from his point of view and ask him to see them from yours. good luck and hope that you will be pregnant soon = )
2006-11-30 02:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its probably only natural to be a little disappointed when you think there's a chance you might be pregnant and you then find out your not, even if you weren't too keen on the idea of having another child.
I think that you should try and put it out of your mind for a little while, and then in about 3-6 months time you think that you would still like to have another child then try suggesting it again to your husband. He might feel differently too.
If the urge to have another child is more stronger than ever then explain this too him. You don't sound 100% sure now so i do think you should wait a while.
2006-11-30 02:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by retardomc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its beutiful having kids. I have 2 kids. My son who is 2 and my daughter who is 9 months. Me and fiance had planed for 1 more baby and i found out im having TWINS. At first he felt weird but know he loves the idea. Try taking to him and tell him why you should have nother baby. He will end up wanting another baby. Good luck.
2006-11-30 01:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by esna a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be a joint decision as a another baby can bring a lot of joy or resentment.if there is no rush see how you feel in a years time.my friend got two the same as you and then had a accident she finds it tiring as she said she was use to getting up and going now she has to pack nappies bottles and buggy.
2006-11-30 01:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner did this to me same thing we thought we were and he was happy but i wasn't and he said he did not want any so i went of the pill i told him before hand of course and just said quite simply i am not taking anything if you don't want a baby don't have sex with me he changed his mind pretty quick and he is the best dad but you need to tell the truth and make sure it is not going to tear you apart for my partner he never said NO NEVER just not yet and i got sick of waiting now we have 2 girls and he is bugging me for a third he wants a boy lol good luck think back to those sleepless nights and Nappy's and decide if you really need to go there again
2006-11-30 01:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already saved enough money to put your first two thru college,then maybe your husband just is not interested in having more.Maybe you should think of fostering a child.There are many children who need a home if only til permanent placement.
2006-11-30 01:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me 2 is enough to give them all they need by being with them with full mind i have 2 son the oldest is 3 and the youngest is 1 but they make me out of mind but you have to ask your self why you want the third just because you love kids or you have a part time so you want some one who share it with you.......................why?
2006-11-30 01:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop already. This planet's way overpopulated. Has that crossed your mind?
If you want another child adopt. You might try an African because the birthrate over there is still around 7 kids per female.
2006-11-30 01:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by sain et hereaux 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Until your hubby agrees, I would just concentrate 100% on your two kids and love them to pieces.
If they day comes and he agrees, then go for it! :)
2006-11-30 02:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the if it happenes it happenes apporach?
Let it be in gods hands.
Children are a blessing and there are lots of us that cant have them....so I would personally tell you to go for it!
I hope things work out...good luck
2006-11-30 01:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋