I have a 12 yo daughter that started wearing bras a month ago. She doesn't like it that much, but I thought it was time for her to get started. She resisted a bit, but no big problem, she's a very good girl and I treat her with much love. She promised me she won't disobey and will try to get used to her bras. But sometimes she tries some tricks: She doesn't disobey or make fusses, but sometimes she "forgets" to put her bra on. Then, she gets close to me so that I can see she's braless and maybe let it pass. When I tell her she's braless, she says Oh I forgot. And I make her put it on.
Another trick is resisting learning how to put her bras on. She says it's kinda hard and says I gota help her. Well, I do, but this can't go forever.
Of course, those are childish things and I don't see any big problem, but I'd like opinions on how to handle this situation.
2006-11-30 01:21:41 · 21 answers · asked by Sandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh wow, I remember doing the same thing to my mom. I think I faithfully started wearing a bra when I realized that my friends were wearing them too.
Also, I think it might help if you let your daughter pick out her own bras. Maybe let an Aunt, sister, older friends, etc. take her out to buy one. You could talk to one of her friend's mom about the situation and maybe it is time for her friends to get bras too. They can tag along and buy their own bra, and that way "Mom" isn't there, and doesnt have to approve.
As far as she doesn't want to learn how to put one, it is kinda difficult. You should try a front latch bra.
I just know that if you can find someone to take her to a bra shop and let her talk to a saleslady about the different options for bras, she will be less reluctant to wear one. Especially if she has the opportunity to take a friend.
2006-11-30 01:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by I am Crystal S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-24 20:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is you child yet in need of a bra? Do any of her other friends wear bras? Is she is wearing a bra that will fasten easily in the front so she can do it on her own?
You are forcing her to wear a bra and this could affect her self esteem. Sit her down and explain why you feel it is important that she wear a bra and then hear her side why she doesn't like wearing one.
Her childhood is at the sunset and she may be resisting this for many reasons. You need to be a good listener and guide your daughter accordingly.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 01:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first question back to you is, did you let her pick out the bras or did you just pick them up for her? By letting her pick out her own bras, pretty frilly ones, or just ones that she likes, may result in her wanting to wear them and not forgetting so often.
Another suggestion that worked with my daughter, now age 15, sports bras worked better. More comfortable and easier to put on, they jusy slide over the head like a t-shirt.
Hope this helps!
2006-11-30 01:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by sawftandtender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about getting her to try sports bras first. That way they just slip on over her head and it's not like wearing a real bra so she'll feel more comfortable and less awkward wearing one.
2006-11-30 01:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds extra like she is making an attempt to get interest extra effective than the rest. She facilitates you to work out that she isn't donning one, so which you will talk over along with her to tell her to bypass positioned one on. and additionally, that she 'desires' your help putting it on. i think of she merely desires to spend some extra time with you jointly as she continues to be a 'baby', and until eventually now she gets to old to do 'baby stuff'. donning a bra an getting your era are all signs and indications of turning out to be up and starting to be a woman, she is merely attempting stay a 'baby' somewhat longer.
2016-10-04 13:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im twelve and were bras but i wear sports bras if she not wearing a sports bra mabey give that a try i think those are a lot more comfertable than those ones that hook in the back cuz i rember i had to wear one of those for my sis wedding and it hurt bad! i had like a little bern or sumthin from the illastic so im stickin w/ sports bras for a while
2006-11-30 01:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rhiannon T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been a parent, but here's my opinion: As time passes, and she develops more, maybe she will recognize the consequences of not wearing a bra---getting unwanted stares from other kids. Maybe that will make her excuses disappear.
2006-11-30 01:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at 12 are her breasts really so big she needs to wear a bra at all times? maybe you could compromise and make her only wear one when shes leaving the house to go somewhere. When my daughter started needing one, i started her with sports bras, because they just get pulled over the head and they were much more comfortable for her. maybe you could try that?
2006-11-30 01:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Queen B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Crikey, I had to beg my mum for a bra, (and believe me I needed one) but we were poor and she gave me one of hers.
Nowadays mums seem to be pushing adult things onto their daughters, we've got 9 and 10 year olds wearing thongs,having facials and what is that "playboy" pencil-case and accessory thing all about?.
Bras are uncomfortable things to wear, does she really need one and if not, why are you so keen to have her wear one? Has she been properly measured? Can't she wear a little vest under her tops if her nipples are showing through?
2006-11-30 01:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by spamela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋