my baby is still young but me and her father have been thinkg....when she is of age to know whats christmas should we start off telling her there is no santa or lie for a little while
2006-11-30 01:06:18 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Do NOT tell her Santa is not real...she'll ruin it for all the other kids out there when she gets older. Let the magic of the Holiday continue and give her something to look forward to for the next 9 or 10 years. There's nothing greater than seeing the expression on your childs sweet face when she discovers Santa left her what she asked for. You'll see....and the memories will be grand!
2006-11-30 01:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kimber 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
There's no santa??!! I still believe in santa as an adult. I taught my boys that santa is part of the love and giving that happens at Christmas.
Both of my children believed in santa until they were 5 or 6 and learning the "truth" didn't harm either of them. We go to the food bank and Salvation Army every year at Christmas with donations and our boys understood from a very young age that they were being Santa when they did that. Giving and loving is a big and important concept for everyone and kids "get it" very easily.
My oldest son is 19 and my youngest is 14 and they still get "Santa" gifts under the tree. The mom and dad gifts are the socks and underwear and jammies and the santa gifts are the cool and fun things that they really wanted.
The core concepts of Christmas and Santa are such important life lessons. The naughty and nice list lets kids know that there are consequences to their actions. Giving and receiving, getting together with family, music and laughter and food and toys... if everyone still believed in santa, the world would be a much better place.
2006-11-30 03:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 year old believes in Santa and I did when I was a child too. This world is a tough place, why can't we make it less frightening and more magical for our children?!? I was not mad when I found out Santa was not "real." I think when my daughter starts to question it, if she is still very young (6 or 7) I'll probably tell her Santa is real. But once she is around 8 or 9 (depending on her maturity) and still questioning it I'll explain to her that Santa is not real in the form that children believe in him, Santa is more of a spirit of childhood and giving.
2006-11-30 03:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also torn. I have a nine month old and we're deciding what to do about Santa. What we've decided is to keep him innocent as long as possible. But, this will involve a little of both for us. Mainly being because neither hubby or I grew up believing in Santa and hubby never hearing of Santa (he grew up in India as a Hindu).
We've decided to let the children believe in Santa. Santa is St. Nicholas who gave to the poor and helped young women and kids who had no money and lived in poverty. Santa doesn't visit our house because there are too many children who need him more than he (our son) does. But, if we go to a homeless shelter or give to a child off teh giving tree (a tradition at our church were a tag of a needy child from a shelter is placed or elderly who are shut in) we may catch a glimpse...
I dunno for sure. But, this is the idea in the rough. We'll probably revise some more. But, the main points are:
1. Santa is St. Nikolas
2. Santa is Jesus' helper, NOT the giver of all your wants
3. Santa doesn't stop here
We may revise it again. As, we are unsure of #3...maybe Santa will bring him a gift card he can "pay it forward". Or, a special ornament. We'll see. But, this is how it works for our family. Every family is different...it's just trying it out and revising.
2006-11-30 01:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIE Santa is a part of being a kid it only lasts 4 or 5 years till they are onto it and know the truth anyway.. and what do you plan to tell the parents when they come knocking after your child has told the whole pre school Santa is not real?? would you have liked to grow up without Santa? the Easter bunny or the tooth fairy?? fairy tales make kids use there imagination let them be kids it goes by so fast she will be telling you the truth before you know it..
2006-11-30 01:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think if you tell her the truth right away she will be missing out on some of the best times as a kid, the magical feeling of looking forward to Christmas and Santa coming. If she doesn't believe in Santa she's going to have a hard time w/ other kids her age-they're going to believe and if she doesn't they're not going to be friendly towards her. But make sure she does know the TRUE meaning of Christmas.
2006-11-30 01:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by beachlovers5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I've thought about this a lot, as I am worried my youngest will think I'm a liar. Think about it, the kid is 4 or 5 years old and you tell him the biggest lie ever! And then, you don't talk about it ever again? What gives? There's no counselling, no explanation as to why you made this crap up, and worst part is that it's on a GRAND SCALE -- the whole world's in on it! I don't know, I'm considering just telling her that there ONCE was a sort of Santa named Kris Kringle, who for a while brought presents to people, but we are really celebrating his memory and WHY he brought presents around - to celebrate Jesus. Then I'll switch to the real meaning of Christmas, and that is the birth of Christ and what he has done for us. I already put the Nativity scene up, so she knows part of the story. Thanks, again, for asking the question.
2006-11-30 01:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being truthful doesn't mean you have to expel Santa from Christmas completely. My husband and I are Christians so we're going to start our children out explaining why we celebrate Christmas. Then we'll explain the Santa situation and that it's a fairy tale. Just because Santa doesn't exist, doesn't mean you can't let them keep their imagination and still know the truth. Best of luck!
2006-11-30 01:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If all the members of your family and friends are gonna talk about Santa to your child better let the kid beleive. What I did was let the little ones beleive then as child gets older we told them that lots of toys were from Mom and Dad and grandparents. Then as they got older and started to make or buy presents themselves we talked about how The Spirit of Santa is inside all of us thats the part that makes us like to give to others. So by the time they really understood there wasnt a Santa they realized that inside of themselves was Santa and inside each of us.
2006-11-30 01:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is tough one. I always thought that I would be truthful with my kids and tell them that mommy and daddy bought those gifts with there hard earned money. However, My parents let us believe in Santa as young children and the imagination and excitement of Santa coming was priceless. I think that if you are religious and go to church you may want to explain to the child why we celebrate Christmas. I just gave birth to my first child last month, and I believe that I will let him believe in Santa as long as I can. Good luck to you!
2006-11-30 01:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let her believe in Santa. It helps build imagination and brings a magical wonder to Christmas for them. Also you can tell her about the true meaning of Christmas. My children have been taught the true meaning of Christmas, and still believe in Santa. Santa is just a little extra enjoyment.
2006-11-30 01:15:09 · answer #11 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋