My mom is kinda cool, a great mom. She's a modern woman, a byologist. She strongly encourages me and my 11 yo sister to go to college in the future and become independent women. But in some points she's kinda traditional, so she's a bit overprotective, but I know ot's out of love. Though she's graduated she thinks some of the tradional female roles should be preserved, so, in addition to what modern girsl do, like playing sports, etc, we had to learn a bit about sewing and cooking. When we do our chores at home we have to wear those tradional frilly pinafores with a bowl in the back. She got me and my sister some of them and loves to see us wearing them. Sometimes we have to keep them on even when we're having dinner or lunch or anything else. I get embarrassed, but to mom this kinda important. When we're not doing chortes, we're not exctly forced to wear them, but we ene up keeping them on just to make her happy, cause she asks w/ love. What should I do?
2006-11-30 00:31:31 · 11 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep mom happy, and use spell check.
2006-11-30 00:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by wvucountryroads 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mum used to make me wear full-aprons (I think that's what you're meaning with pinafore). I have to say that I found it a bit embarrassing at your age. I rebelled and didn't wear them anymore (that and rain-mates!)
So - as a "grown-up" I can understand why my mum (and your mum) wants us to wear aprons. For a start it keeps you clean. But she also likes to see you being like her. I bet she's cleaning and stuff in aprons.
But - I remember how embarrassing it was. So I'd talk to her and say that you feel silly wearing these things now. Perhaps compromise and wear a half-apron when you're cooking/cleaning. At the end of the day she loves you and she'll understand if you approach it right!
And don't feel bad about the spelling.
2006-11-30 08:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mango M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the apron wearing that you don't like or the fact that it's a frilly one?
There's nothing to stop you from taking it off once the chores have been done, after all who wants to eat the dinner etc while in a dirty apron?
How about a new less frilly apron; if frills are the problem?
What about designing and making one of your own?
Netty
2006-11-30 09:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by Netty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Mom is usually right, right? But it sounds like she is a very smart reasonable lady and she will appreciate you very much if you and your sister ask your mom to sit down and have a talk with her. You start off telling her how much you love her and respect her, although you feel that you and your sister would feel more comfortable wearing more traditional clothing, but during special occasions you will gladly wear the clothes she likes. I feel like she will engage you in a conversation regarding your likes and dislikes, this will be great time to be honest and tell her your feelings. Good luck to you and your sister.
2006-11-30 08:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as she doesn't expect u to wear that stuff to school or when meeting up with friends, i think it should not bother you much. after all, ur mom seems like a great lady, and u two are her little girls, and she just likes to feel good about the way she's bringing u up ( which, by the way, is commendable) imagine those kids whos moms do not have interest in them at all, and couldn't care less. u r lucky, and those dresses do look nice for a change, don't they?
2006-11-30 08:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum sounds like a good lady, but if she really wants you to be independent women, she's got a few funny ideas.
Teaching you household chores is empowering, yes, you'll be able to look after yourselves, but dressing you and your sister up like dollies is not.
Does she want to raise daughters with minds and lives of their own or does she want "mini-Me's"?
I think she is imposing something on you, rather like teenage boys stuck in short pants, she is trying to keep you as little girls.
If you don't like those aprons and you don't fancy being Anne of Greengables, tell her, but gently.
2006-11-30 09:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by spamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as her ways agrees with what you want to do and who you want to become, then it's not embarrassing. If you agree with the values your mom is trying to teach you, then what is the problem?
2006-11-30 08:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to tell her, i know it doesn't seem like a good idea, but you'll both be happier when you do. She will understand
2006-11-30 08:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mum happy!
2006-11-30 08:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by shelley l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to spell biologist.()
2006-11-30 08:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋