Need your advice on an argument with my bf?

Question

Me and my fella booked the same days off work for next week so we could spend some time together. I completely forgot that i have to help my mum with something on one night for about 3-4 hours. He has gone moody with me now! I told him i was sorry and that i genuinely forgot but he still hasnt dropped it!
Now hes saying that his family have invited me out for a meal the same night and wants to know if im going.
What do u think?

Answer 1

You have already apologized. Accidents happen. Not only that, but before he came into the picture, your family was there, and if he should decide to walk away, your family will still be there. Don't blow your mom off, think of all the time she spent on you! And, it's not like he will be sitting home waiting if can go out with his own family. so the both of you can do your own thing for awhile and meet up after both of your obligations are met. I'm sure his family will understand how important your family is to you and be ok with it!

Answer 2

What!
you have to help your mum- end of story. If he is being moody about it, that's his problem. Don't you dare back down, this is a control thing. if you back down now, you will be backing down forever. stand your ground and show that you have your priorities straight and will not be bullied. you mother needs you for 3-4 hours I would stay for 3-6 hours just to teach him a lesson. helping your mum was planned first, his family now inviting you to dinner has to come after helping your mum.
it seems he places no value in your relationship with your mum and seems to think his family is more important.
what doesn't make sense to me is that initially he was being moody because you had to do something that took you away from your quality alone time.....doesn't being with his family do the same thing. he is being a hypocrite.
God forbid you guys ever break up, your mum will be there to mop up your tears, him and his family will have gone....so you better start showing that you mum is a very important piece of your jigsaw.

Answer 3

Naturally I too would pi**ed off about it as it means less time in the sack with you massaging your fine booty, but then I would see it as good news cos at least it gets you out of my hair for a few hours!

Him claiming that his family have invited you out for a meal that same day is a lie. He has said this simply to see what you will say and do. If you say that you will go to the meal then as you get closer to this dinner date with his family he will come out with a pathetic excuse saying that his family have cancelled it!!! I guarantee this.

Stick to your guns and tell him once more that it was a genuine mistake on your part and if he can't handle it then maybe he should go take a hike!

Answer 4

I think that if u genuinly forget then he is over reacting abit .. it is only gonna be for a few hours...... and if u have apologised then he is just bein childish.... as for tea with his family did they ask after the fact if so why didn't he say that u had something on that night why has he put it back on u to have to make the choice.... maybe u should go to ur mums and he should go to his family by the sounds of it u mite need the break...... or why doesn't he help u with ur mum if he can (maybe make it earlier in the day if u can) then u can both go to his familys place fortea...

Answer 5

Well I believe you should priority whats most important to you.You should weigh things, because it might give you more headaches in the future.If having a day off together with your bf is a very rare event in your lives then you should priority him first, although you have a word to your mom that you will help her..Because if you decided to choose your mom then your bf might think that you never appreciate his efforts to be with you just for once...I also have that experience, and I always choose wisely because at the end I might the one who will regret my decision if it was a wrong one.And you know my bf also have that situation, sometime he should help his mother for something but he always choose me because having time together is a rare moments, so he always grab that opportunity to be with me, of course he will explain to his mother why he cant help her that time in right manner.I hope you will choose the best one because in the future you will have the same problem so right now you should know whats best for you.Thats all hope I helped you.

Answer 6

well considering u have the whole week off together why cant you see ur mum for a few hours one ngiht regardless of u forgetting and all that! its not like you arent gonna be seeing each other
tell him to stop being so pathetic! Also why all of a sudden is it wrong for u to see ur family but he wants you to go out with his? i dont get it!
How long have you guys been together
i dont think he's worth it to be honest he sounds an idiot

Answer 7

I think you should go to the meal. Can't you help your mother earlier in the day or the next day.

Usually I wouldn't say this but it is obvious that the family meal cannot be moved and if you want any future in your relationship with your boyfriend you will have to compromise sometimes. I can just imagine the day when your family invite him out for a gathering and he says (out of spite) that he has to help his father change a light bulb or something.

If it is possible, tell your mother you need to change the time you meet with her.

Answer 8

Tell him to stop acting like a spoilt child. Whats 3 or 4 hours of ones time within the time together!

Answer 9

It sounds to my male brain, that he might have organised a surprise for you and by going to your mother on that night has ruined his plans, speak with him subtley to find out the truth.

Just guess work and reading between the lines. What ever happens good luck

Answer 10

this is important, if the 2 of you don't resolve this blip you may as well jack it in now. this sort of non sensible argument leads to much greater dilemmas in the future. no one cheated no one got hurt, just come together and sit down like adults and compromise,both of you.