help, i need some advice?

Question

hey, im feeling real wierd. its been goin on quite abit. i feel inferiro to everyone. everything i say seems wrong and i wish i hadnt opened my mouth. and this is even when i do open my mouth. everyone else seems to have so much more life in them than me and arent worrying about how they act and seem so much more confident. im finding it so hard to keep a converstaion going with people i know and just wanna be alone. i feel that everyone else around me is so much more worthy and that i dont really belong here. why do i constantly worry about how i act, what i say, how i look, if im coming across as a decent person or not. instead i isolate my self from people i know and just think think and think. i think real crazy **** too... could someone give me some advice, as i havent a clue whats goin on, where im at, who i am lol. real ****** up! btw, im 17, male, UK. thanx peeps x

Answer 1

why dont you try first of all going to counseling or therapy that aways helps thats prof help......im pretty sure its just something temporarily everyone goes thru that at one point believe me some more than others.....but dont worry you know we are here to listen and help w/ what we can....good luck

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling like that. The first thing to do is realise that you're NOT inferior. Just because they're more talkative than you, or more talented at some things doesn't mean a thing. I'm sure you, too, have your talents, and your peers may feel just as inferior at times of you for having them!

It's likely that the things you say seem much worse to you than they do to other people. How do they react when you say them? Everybody worries that they're going to slip up at times, you may just be more aware of that. If you're really worried, just think a little beforehand before you do speak.

It sounds like you're really quite introverted. The more time you spend avoiding people, the worse you'll feel when put in the middle of social situations. Instead, just work yourself up so that you do eventually feel okay in larger groups - perhaps start by just talking to a couple of people, then move up from there. Even simple conversation is fine, as it at least keeps you talking. Find something that you and the other people are interested in, as common ground always gives for flowing and involved speak.

Instead of thinking negatively, try to focus your thoughts on the more positive aspects of your life. Think of something you're good at, or something respectable that you've done, and tell yourself something like, 'I did it once, I can do it again.' Everybody has their insecurities, but most people can prevent themselves dwelling on them too much.
It may also help to exercise whenever you're feeling low about yourself, as it will stop you thinking too negatively, and make you feel more energised and refreshed, and overall much happier.

I'm not sure if any of that made sense, it's late, but I hope you're feeling much better about yourself soon.

And hey, I feel inferior to you - you live in the UK! =)

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You are obsessed with getting acceptance from others.You need to let go of that urge.