after 4yrs my girl tells me it is over telling me she is scared. she calls me two weeks in2 it and wants to come back. I let her back and we seem great she says all these thing about how much she loves me and misses me. She talked about marrige and moving in with me. She then leaves 2 go see her friend and when she comes back the distance comes back she then breaks up with me on thanksgivn. i called her fri and she said she is sorry and was trying to force herself to love me. i dont understand i am confused. i wish i could move on and give up but i still love her. I wish i know what is going on. She is not malisuse girl. I thought i could have sence this when she came bac. its hard i love her so much. but it hurts to let go. i still think she will call me. i going to let her go b/c i love her. it just dosnt feel right. is she confused or is she finaly being honest. I am not mad at her. She is now ignoring me. and i just give up understanding. help addive needed i hurt so much
2006-11-30 00:11:18 · 14 answers · asked by detox_denny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but truth is She is not the one for you. True love happens and is not forced. You just fall into it. Focus on your career, being successful and confident and a better woman awaits you.
2006-11-30 00:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your gf has some issues regarding her feelings. You've been together for 4 years but it is not long enough to say that you really are meant for each other. I think you should let her go because right now she is having doubts about your relationship and herself too.
There are two options, you know: First, you can force her to stay with you but the consequences are rather too difficult for her. You are happy while she is miserable, which will greatly affect your relationship no matter what. In totality, you become both miserable.
Second, you let her go, you are the one who cannot move on while she gets what she wants. She is peaceful about her decision (I hope so) and you're just the one who is crying. But none of that will have an impact in your relationship, cause there's no relationship at all.
I think you are the understanding one to just give her her freedom. You just have to think that if one of you is no longer happy with the company of the other, you're just making a fool out yourselves if you're still together.
Anyway, if she's for you, she'll call again and take you back. But i just have to warn you that after that, if things go wrong again, you have to quit dreaming that there's still a bright future for you both.
Let go, you'll get over it. Although, Time can only tell, it will be soon.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 00:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend I'm afraid one of two things are happening. one, she has cheated on you and she feels guilty and wanted to try to come back. Or two, she came to realize she doesn't love you and she's trying to come to terms with it. Either way my friend women never make sense and are creatures of pure emotion disregarding any logic what-so-ever! My advice to you, is move on. She will tell you the real story when she'd ready. The best thing you could do to try to make her come back, if that's what you really want, is to ignore her. Be kind when she calls you or sees you, but don't let any emotion show. The more she thinks you've moved on the more she'll want to try to rip your heart open again. Trust me, it's how women work. Like I said, be nice, don't call her, and move on with your life. I know it's hard when you're heart broken, but believe me..... One day, when you've got something else good going on she'll show up at your door. At that point it will be up to you wether or not you want to have her back. My advice, DO NOT DO IT!!!!!! Something really fishy is going on and she left for a better reason than, "I don't lov eyou anymore!" There's a reason my friend, trust me. I wish you luck, and a fast healing heart.
2006-11-30 00:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly she doesnt want to be with you. She wouldnt be confussed if she did. You have to let her go. Yes I know it is hard and it hurts but that is the only way you will begin healing. there is someone else out there and there is no hurry for you to find new love. Your going to be ok it might not feel like it and it may seem to take forever but youll be fine.
Its better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.
2006-11-30 00:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by betty boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't yet know what she wants in life! It seems like she has alot to figure out about herself and you can't exactly do that for her she has to want to be ready! It may seem like she wants you but it will only be for a short amount of time! Her pattern will continue until she has decided what she wants! It may hurt but time heals everything surround yourself with things that you like to do that make you happy! Don't continue to be her on again off again guy cause then thats all she will think of you as!
2006-11-30 00:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can write her a letter. tell her your feelings-- that it would be hard to let her go and forget everything. ask her what really happened.
if she responds, explain yourself further. tell her you love her one last time and find closure.
if she doesn't respond, you have to get over it. maybe she really wants to move on. it will hurt but it will be no use pining over her. if she doesn't want to, you would never have a normal relationship again.
2006-11-30 00:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't even know what should she do. Forget her!! Do you want her to come back and hurt you again and again? u have taste it twice. I know is hard to except at the 1st place. U deserve better.
2006-11-30 00:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a letter is a dumd theory. in case you screwed issues up then it won't in any respect artwork regardless of in case you attempt to repatch issues. in case you do attempt to repatch issues, seek advice from her in guy or woman so she thinks which you will "communicate" instantaneous, no longer sitting for an hour questioning of a letter to jot down
2016-12-14 09:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U told ur self she is not coming back then y r u sitting like a loser waiting for her when she is ignoring u.
2006-11-30 00:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dark Side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone or carry on being a doormat for the next 4 yrs or more, your life. make a choice.
2006-11-30 00:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋