It maybe just me, but I hate it when I hear how women try to change men or when men try to change women. I believe that when two people get together then u get what u get.If you didn't like the way the person act when u got together than y did u stay with them in the first place? In my opinon, I believe that a person will be who they are no matter what others try to do to make them diff. One of my friends seems to think that I am wrong. What do u think about it?
2006-11-30 00:03:41 · 7 answers · asked by dcutegirl06 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont know why peolpe want to change others to fit their definition of how they should be. I agree that when you decide to be in a relationship with an individual that you decided to be with them and all of them. Their bad habits good, habits language, extra issues before you came alone, and any other thing that they have going on in their lives. The more you try to chance a man or anyone the more they will be pushed away from you. You have to except people for who they are and not for what you expect for them to be.
2006-12-02 16:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with your friend.
Life is a metamorphosis.
From start to finish there is change.
Think about it... physically you mature.
Your body changes from a babe to an adult.
What happens is that we often fail to mature mentally and are comfortable when at age 24 we throw tantrums they way we used to do when we were 16.
Change is what allows you to know that certain things aren't for you.
My bf always tells me he doesn't want me to change because of him and I shouldn't try to change him either and the truth is I want change to certain aspect about me, not to please him, but ot be a better me.
If I can become better.. then why should I not try.
I know that NOBODY is perfect but why not aim for perfection.
If change will affect me positively then I'll welcome it with open arms but if that won't happen then why should I change.
The real trick though, is to look at things and find out what is good for you.
We don't eat everything that is edible because everything edible might not be good for you neither might it be what your body requires.
Seafood is lovely but I can't eat it because I have an allergic reaction to it.
SO while change is inevitable, not all change is positive and needs to be looked at on an individual basis.
2006-11-30 08:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by ilyena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On almost every TV show someone changes and everything is roses and chocolate and happy time like in Whoo whoo. Stoopid people take this stuff to heart and some woman says I can change an Axe murderer in prison for life so she goes there and Marries ??????? him. Now you know like I do why stupid is the new Stoopid.
2006-11-30 08:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change who you are BUT you can change what you do. In a relationship it is important to change some of the things you do that your partner may not like. So anything from leaving my socks on the floor all the time or not spontaneously helping with the housework are things I can change.
2006-11-30 08:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change people only yourself. Unless of coarse you have money then the person will change until it's gone.
2006-11-30 08:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL MEN THINK WOMEN WON'T CHANGE AND ALL WOMEN THINK MEN WILL.
GOD MADE IT THAT WAY.
DON'T ASK THIS QUESTION EVER AGAIN.
cereal.
2006-11-30 08:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe because they ar selfish.
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2006-11-30 08:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋