if a guy really really fancies you, you you have been seeing eachother casually, but have only kissed, wouldhe be scared to ask you out on a date if he know you came out of a 6 year relationship with your ex fiance 8 months ago, despite you telling him its over with him?
he knows about my relationship as he knew my ex. they were not friends and my ex has moved away. he doesnt know why we split up tho.
2006-11-29 23:45:40 · 17 answers · asked by hunni!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
too many "yous" lol !!!!
2006-11-29 23:46:08 · update #1
Yes men fear too when it comes to relation. For men these fears or insecurities might include:
- Fear of Rejection (a man will keep from sharing
his feelings for a woman for fear that she will
change her mind about him once she finds out who
he really is)
- Fear of Insignificance (a man being afraid that
a woman won't like him or wouldn't want to be with
him without the money, power or "success")
- Fear of Intimacy (a man being afraid of what
will happen to him emotionally if he gets truly
close to a woman and let's her get close to him)
Some of these fears are so intense inside men
that they literally build their lives around ways
to avoid these fears (dafence mechanism of Avoidance).
What would you do if you had an intense fear
like this that wouldn't go away?
Right... you'd try to hide your fear or what
you think you lack by OVERCOMPENSATING.
A man who fears rejection might never put
himself in the position to be turned down by a
woman by never being direct and up front with her.
A man who fears that he's insignificant might
try and make sure he had all the "success" and
power BEFORE he ever thought to have any kind of
committed long term relationship with a woman.
A man who is afraid of intimacy might become
scared emotionally when he starts getting close to
a woman and pull away, not because she's doing
something "wrong"... but because the more open and
loving and emotionally available she is to him,
the more afraid he becomes of the emotional
connection and ATTACHMENT.
With all this, there's a common mistake I see
TONS of women make when it comes to how women
respond to men who play "games"...
Lots of women become wrapped up in the games
because they don't recognize these fears they are
masking, and so then end up accidentally giving
the man a false sense of power.
And this false sense of power usually has to do
with believing that the man is the only one who
has THE POWER TO CHOOSE whether a relationship
will last or not.
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2006-11-29 23:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No we are not scared its just sometimes we like the lady to start a conversation but what alot of guys do not understand is women still want the guy to make the first approach. I am looking for a girl but even thou, i get ladies calling me "Oh he is so Hottt" sometimes i just don't say anything. But most of the time I say Hello, and have a friendly talk honestly they like that. because what i was told is there aren't many that do that. But What a guy wishes most of the time is when a lady say oh he is way too hot and the guy says hello what women do not do and What guys want is for that lady to either ask him to join them on the table for a friendly conversation or the gal sit beside the guy. Sometimes a guy get a little too uncomfortable and that is because he has been rejected by every other gal. Women need to start to be friendly and not so harsh on a guy. Not every guy is out for just one thing.
2016-05-23 04:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not that into you.....if he was he would ask you out!!!! Your ex relationship is 8 months over, not 8 weeks!!!!! It is plenty long enough for a nice guy to accept it as over and ask a girl out.
2006-11-29 23:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would avoid mentioning the ex if at all possible, real turn off for me, has led to trouble in the past, the opposite sex can be a bit psycho sometimes.
2006-11-29 23:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if he is definitely interested but scared you might be on the rebound he is probably taking it slow so that you don't feel pressured, if you like this guy then tell him say how much you like him and would love to give it a go but be sure you tell him you are completely over this guy and you know what you are doing and what you want, good luck i hope it works out
2006-11-29 23:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's just shy on that front. I find it difficult to initiate relationships sometimes and like it when the girl asks me out. Do it. Why does the guy have to make the first move? I hate that rule. Girls should ask guys out too. I love it when girls ask me out. It makes me feel great!
ASK HIM!
2006-11-30 00:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean seeing each other casually but you havent been on a date? i dont get it but if you want to go on a date with him ask him...your the one thats scared.
2006-11-29 23:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
not really sure what you are asking here....you are seeing him casually and you have kissed but never been out on a date....I see...so you hang out and you kiss but he has never taken you anywhere....hmmmm.....scared no....taking what he can get without any work for it on his part...maybe....If you were smart...you would not be hanging out and kissing unless or until he took you on an official 'date"
2006-11-29 23:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i reckon he would be too frightened to ask you out in case he thinks hes just a 're-bound' relationship
2006-11-29 23:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by tizzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe "you" should ask him out on a date.
2006-11-29 23:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by nihil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋