My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs. Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me . When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me, He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me. Why does he abuse me???I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me . He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE HASNT CONTACTD ME SINCE 15DAYS. WILL SUCH A GUY TRY TO CONTACT OR TEXT MESG ME AGAIN
2006-11-29 23:42:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from the pattern Im sure he will try to contact you again. But you seriously need to ignore any attempt. Sounds like he needs help.
2006-11-29 23:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the text messages on your phone. If you ever lived together, go to your local Juvenile and Domestic Relations Intake department and request an Order of Protection. If you never lived together, then go to the Magistrate's office and file for a No Contact Order or Restraining Order.
Either of these can be issued upon your word of past incidents and any evidence you might have (including text messages with threats to you.)
You do not have to have current bruising or marks on you, but if you have witnesses who have seen marks on you or know of any of these incidents they can be helpful when you appear before a judge.
I will hope that the 15 days will turn into forever and that he will never contact you again, but men like this tend to become stalkers because they want to control you. I think it would be best to go ahead and proceed legally to keep yourself safe. Once he's ordered not to have any contact with you, if he violates the order, even with a text message, he can be arrested.
If the order says no physical contact, he can still be charged with harrassment. There's probably enough evidence on that already. You do not need a lawyer to proceed with either legal option above. Good luck to you.
2006-11-30 07:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would anyone know if he is going to contact you again? But, more importantly, why aren't you contacting the police about these messages? If he does contact you, don't answer. Tell your parents and show them any messages that you might have so they can help you, if you haven't done so already. Please contact the police. a report can be made against this guy and you can get a no-contact order that might help protect you.
2006-11-30 07:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by schoolot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you would be better off if he didn't contact you. In case you don't know it he was abusive when he was sending you thise messages. What he is doing now is sitting back waiting for you to come slinking back and for YOU to beg for forgiveness. DON"T DO IT! He's not worth it. just move on.
2006-11-30 07:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times are you going to ask this same question? Wake up....get a restraining order if you are afraid of him....get some help dealing with this because clearly you are confused.....good luck
2006-11-30 07:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're abusing the word abused.
2006-11-30 07:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by nik 28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that he will contact you !
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2006-11-30 07:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋