I want more out of our relationship. We have been dating for over a year, but only see each other on the weekends. I am unhappy with all of this and he knows it too. The problem is, I have been talking to another guy off of the personals and I have a chance to meet him on Saturday. We get along great and I really want to meet him, but I really want things to work out with my boyfriend. It's just that I want to be with someone that I know loves me and wants to make a long term committment with me....what should I do? Should I go out on this date..or not? Please help.
2006-11-29 23:21:41 · 21 answers · asked by ceecee_41004 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is just the weekends you see him? He could be married. If you know he isn't and it's just a question of schedules or locations then you should talk about moving in or changing something that will fit your needs. You don't need to move in together as its only been a year but maybe moving closer together or spending a few nights over at each other's place would be in order I would think.
As you guys aren't exclusive yet go see the other guy there's nothing wrong with seeing if you are making the right decision. But I'd also but the boyfriend on notice that you aren't happy with the way things are and that you seeing other people isn't out of the question. As I'm sure it's in his realm of probabilities as well. I don't know his line of work or why you only see him on the weekends so I can only speculate.
However one thing I'm sure of. If he knows of the situation and hasn't done anything about he doesn't plan on doing anything about it.
2006-11-30 00:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had a boyfriend for a year and you really do like him and want it to go further then you need to talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. I do not think meeting someone from the internet is a good idea anyway. I tryed that and it was nothing but trouble. They sound really good online but after you meet them oh my what a mess. I think if you really like your boyfriend then just let him know that you need more or you want to break up if he can not give more. It has been a year if he really likes you he will work it out with you if he does not work it out then you need to move on with your live and find someone that is ready for the same things you are. Good Luck on your decision
2006-11-30 07:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want things to work out with your bf, you won't go and have some faith. Don’t do stuff that you are going to regret. I know what I'm talking about because I have been there and done some wrong stuff, today I'm so in love with he one I doubt because I decided that love is a decision not a feeling and I'm working on my relationship because I want it to work and today I'm very happy and have a couple of regrets, the feeling of that sucks! W-Ends is enough when you love someone and someday you'll be together if its meant to be. Rather let him go if you want to meat new people, its not fair to him.
2006-11-30 07:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend of a year truly loves and cares about you, he'll fight hard so that you can't see anyone else. If not, like the saying goes, "He's not that into you" and you should feel free to explore your options. This new guy might be great and looking for something more serious and long-term. You deserve it. Good luck!
2006-11-30 07:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you already have a boyfriend. I think what you need to do is talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. And in weekends you can have fun activities like going out and get wet. Be faithful you just need to talk with him not another boyfriend.
Boyfriend = No dates with other guys. Commitment is important. Wish you the best.
2006-11-30 07:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sussy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to go out with this other guy, then you need to leave your boyfriend..Put yourself in your boyfriends shoes, would you agree to him going to meet a woman off the personals.???? Probably not. So 1st you need to talk to your boyfriend and maybe ask him where he sees the relationship going? then make your decision if you want to be with him or not. Then your free to meet anyone you want if you decide not to be with him... One more thing, be careful meeting people off the Internet, they may be nice to you just to lure you in.. People can lie and act like someone they aren't.. BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-30 07:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Indymom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answered ur own question m8.... u say u love ur boyfriend but have been talkin to this guy off the personals... well by the looks of it u shouldn't be ur boyfriend if u are doing this and making arrangements to meet.. maybe ur subconcious is telling u something and maybe u should just slow down a sec and really think of wat u want.. do u want to be with ur boyfriend if u feel that he isn't showing long term commitment? maybe talk to ur boyfriend about how u feel and if he doesn't want to try and resolve the issues u have then u should leave m8 .... it takes 2 to make a relationship work and if only one of u is trying then it isn't going to work...
2006-11-30 07:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should go out on the date and other dates and tell your bf u want to see other people as long as it goes both ways he can too and then u will see if your bf is the one u really want to be with
2006-11-30 07:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by sonoftazont 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your thinking of going out on a date then that's cheating! You either have to tell your bf you want a break to see what you really want and need or break it off completly. Tell your bf how you really feel and what you want and if doenst seem to be on the same level as you then it's time to break it off. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 07:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you only see your boyfriend on the weekend?? If you want to spend more time with your boyfriend do it. As an adult you know if your ready to see other people or not, if thats what you want to do dont make excuses just do it
2006-11-30 07:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋