Is she lying about her miscarriage?

Question

My step sister who is my very best friend claimed to be pregnant a few months back than days later said she misscarried. As soon as she quit bleeding she and her boyfriend started to try to get pregnant again. According to her the doc said that was fine!? Now she is pregnant again and is telling everyone and teaching her toddler daughter to tell everyone that the baby is in mommys tummy after only know she is pregnant for a few days. I have had a miscarrige and feel like this behavior is kinda nuts. Also her doc cant get her in for her first check up for another month. I asked her if she told them she just had a miscarrige only months ago and she said they know. My doc would have gotten me in right away just to give me peice of mind. What do you think?

I care because she is my friend and is rubbing this pregnancy in my face. I am in real pain about my miscarrige.

Answer 1

i agree with u, it sounds like she may have fibbed. like u i think some things arent adding up im on my 2nd pregnancy and i know my dr would have had me in there in a heartbeat and probably would have me in their every 3 weeks instead of 4 to monitor the heartbeat. and i would think that after having one miscarriage id be skeptical of announcing my new pregnancy until the 3 or 4 month mark when the chances of it happening again are slimmer. i think that is the weirdest part of ure story, why would she get her family excited when she "knows" that she has had a miscarriage and could be at high risk for another?? Nope doesnt make sense, don't let it bother u though, stay honest and positive but dont let her stories of misfortune affect u, its not worth it and id hate to say this but her lies will catch up to her. when its serious like that they come back to haunt for sure!! sorry to hear of ure loss.

Answer 2

I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I know that this must be hard on you especially the way that your sister seems to be rubbing it in your face. She could of very well had a miscarriage and gotten pregnant right away again. It depends on how far along she was when she had her miscarriage as well because if she was 2 months or more she should of had a DNC done. I have had 5 miscarriages and had to have a DNC done 3 out of the five. Most Dr's won't get her in the office in a rush if she just had a miscarriage because,miscarriage happens in like 50% of pregnancy's. Just try to be happy for her and take your time to heal and if it really is bothering you a lot then ask her if she could cut back on the gloating in your presence because your still suffering and very upset about your loss. Good luck to you and I hope that you can experience pregnancy yourself soon.

Answer 3

Usually people don't say anything until the 3rd month. Usually people wait a bit longer to tell children, as they do not have a good sense of time. Because they will ask every day "where's the baby?"

I have heard of people having an abortion and saying they "miscarried".

The fact that she started trying again would lead me to believe that she is not lying.

As many as 50 % of all pregnancies may end in miscarriage, many losses occur before a woman realizes she is even pregnant.

Depending upon how long she was pregnant it takes may take weeks to a month or more for her body to recover physically. Most women experience a menstrual period four to six weeks after a miscarriage.... as you said she waited, so she was ready.

It takes much longer to recover emotionally. Trying soon after allows them to look forward and not dwell on their loss.

Medically, it is safe to conceive after a woman has had one normal menstrual cycle.

Doctors usually do not perform tests following a first miscarriage that occurs in the first trimester as the cause of these early losses is often unknown.

If she has a miscarriage in the second trimester or has two or more miscarriages in the first trimester, tests usually are recommended to help determine the cause.

Read more at: http://www.marchofdimes.com/professionals/681_1192.asp

Best wishes.

Answer 4

i doubt she is rubbing her pregnancy in your face. mayb u can try talking to your sis and explaining that you still have not gotten over your miscarriage. i had a miscarriage and i now have a 4month old, so there is hope.. what u can also suggest to her is for her to call her Dr.office and ask if they can give her a script to have an ultrasound done at the hospital. just to make sure everything is fine and that she didnt get a false positive

Answer 5

Telling people of your pregancy before the first 4 months is a no no because so much can happen including a miscarriage.

It sounds like she maybe just looking for attention but lets not assume that.

Congratulate her and treat her like she is pregnant.

Answer 6

Well, any doc worth the paper their degree is printed on would tell a woman NOT to get pregnant for AT LEAST 3 MONTHS after a miscarriage. It is dangerous for a woman to get pregnant immediately.

And a doctor won't necessarily bring you in for peace of mind unless you insist on it. They are busy people, and if you aren't concerned, they aren't going to worry about it.

If her behavior is bothering you, tell her to knock it off in your presence. If she is your friend, she'll understand that it is hurting you.

Answer 7

Sounds suspicious for sure, but maybe she's tougher than you or I under the same circumstances? Maybe she's cracked up and only thinks she's pregnant and she's not because she wants to be so badly. She sounds a bit irrational, especially with the adult dialog with a toddler? Are you sure she should bring more children into her home?

Answer 8

It really does sound strange. As you know (having a miscarriage yourself), if she truly had a miscarriage, she would NOT be telling everyone about her pregnancy this early. It sounds fishy to me.

Answer 9

She might have just decided to have a baby straight away after the miscarriage.Different people react different to miscarriages, she might have moved on straight away.

Answer 10

why do u care?