Pro or Anti Spanking ?

Answer 1

Totally anti. There are other ways to get a child to behave, and I think it shows weekness or lack of intelligence to resort to physical violence to get a child to behave.

Answer 2

I'm fully pro spanking.

Just because it's no longer the old days, doesn't mean that discipline should stop. Come on people, if more of todays young adults had had a good thrashing that I got many times when I was a child, then our younger generation would have the respect for property and their elders that they should have! Instead look at the youth of today - what respect?

Even as a teenager I got a good touch of my father's belt, and on more than one occasion got "6 of the best" with a gym slipper at school and I recon I turned out all right!

Todays youngsters are too soft by far, what's the good of a little scolding and sending them to their room, where they have television, PC, PlayStation, games console and the like, what punishment is that? Then they continue to walk over you as they grow up and become social drop-outs, filling the borstals and jails.
It's about time the law was changed to allow parents to be able to punish and reward their children as THEY see fit, not as they are told to by someone who hasn't got a clue how to raise youngsters.

Now spanking between consulting adults is a completely different case altogether, which I cannot disagree with! Enjoy it!

Answer 3

I used to be Anti. Now, that I am older, I am Pro. But, let's be clear. Spanking is not beating a child.

I can't believe how much people are talking about this subject. It used to be nothing more than, "Don't! It will make them aggressive". Now, it seems that people are actullay exploring the idea.

But, of course, I can hear all the howling already from the closed minded little nazis out there. It is a tough decision, but something both parents have to agree to and to what level. Also, It isn't fair for one parent to have to do it all. It does hurt.

Once kids reach their teen years, its is useless for sure. Kids are horrible little brats and now I see why. Parents can't control their kids. I was disciplined as a kid, but I love my parents, so don't fear that. What I have noticed, in my lifetime, is a steady decline in behavior in children. This followed the 'spare the rod' mentality. The best behaved, and the most well-adjusted kids ( 20 somethings ) I work with are the ones that were disciplined.

Answer 4

This is obviously a hot topic and my answer is not popular, but I do believe that spanking your child is OK. However, you have to know yourself and your own limits as well as knowing your child and what works with their personality. If you have a child with low self esteem or just a blatant disregard for your authority, than spanking may not be appropriate. Or, if you have a temper and can not control to only spanking your child and you are yelling or leaving marks on them, than spanking may not be appropriate. It is done out of love and in a training way, not to release your anger. Never yell at the child or show anger. Tell them you love them before and after, but that they have to learn that there are consequences for bad behavior. Right now a spanking, later in life, loss of a job, family, or a prison sentence. I know it isn't a popular decision, but I was raised with spankings and I know their is no one out there loved more than my parents love me. I hate to hear adults say they are ruined because their parents spanked them. Apparently those spankings were not handled in the right way.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with a quick pat on the bum !!! I wouldn't do it all the time just when really necessary !!!
there has to be some form of discipline !!! And if you only use a spank when the kid is really naughty then they will come to learn that they have over stepped the mark because the got a smack on the bum !!!
I would never smack on a bare leg or ever leave a mark !!!
there are some people out there who do take it a bit far !!!

Answer 6

Anti-spanking: it is redundant violent discipline. Starting from 18 months you can already start with a short time-out (30 seconds to a minute), but just setting boundaries verbally and sometimes physically (by taking them out of the situation or interaction with a sibling or other child) is enough. Another point to remember is that showing appreciation for desired behavior is important. This can be done through giving compliments, attention and giving the child what he/she wants; for example, when they ask for something to drink in a assertive rather than a whining voice, you can respond promptly. It is than important to ignore them when they begin to whine and offer them a better alternative.
When they are older, these principles can be applied as well: focus on the desired behavior and make sure that the undesired behavior is followed by negative consequences (also for the longterm). This means you have to know what your child desires and what not (the currency). Spanking just focuses on the undesired behavior, it is short-term, and teaches violent behavior. Besides the undesired behavior can easily occur in another context when you are not watching. It begets deceit. I think it is a highly ineffective and morally depraved way of raising children.

Answer 7

I am anti spanking. I think it is a sign of a parent losing control of themselves, and not being able to think of an alternative. Spanking is just a reactive, unthinking response, and doesn't provide any role modelling for children.

How can we teach our children not to hit others if we hit them?

I strongly believe that parents can think of plenty of other methods to discipline children if they are prepared to think creatively and actively about disciplining their children.

I have twins of 2 yrs and 9 months, so I am being tested on a daily basis with my kids saying no, testing their boundaries and checking that I am being consistent with rules and discipline. I don't believe that spanking them would offer any educational value, other than saying that bigger people can hit smaller ones.

Answer 8

Pro.

Answer 9

Anti spanking for sure. Hurting someone never permanently ensures correction or ex-cons would all be rehabilitated from the pain of incarceration. Withholding privileges, restriction on weekends, adding household jobs to perform, and many, many other ways can be used much more successfully!

Answer 10

Anti Spanking for my parenting.

Answer 11

Very Pro

Try everything else first, make clear the consequences, if they still insist on crossing the line, then I have no problem giving a good old fashion spanking.