for the christians?

Question

your religion says that homosexuality is an abomination to god and that they will perish in an eternal hell fire. now my question is how would you handle it if your son or daughter told you they were gay or lesbian? would you shun them ? cry? try to change them? accept them?

how would you seriously handle the situation?

i came out to my mom and she seemed fine with it but i can tell she just wants to avoid talking about things like that shes also not happy about me being an atheist and anti religion

you two must not have really been gay to begin with. and if you were then you were pretty much brainwashed to believe your staight

btw the homosexuality thing is not new to my mom or dad my mom has a cousin who was once named mike and now its melinda and my dad has a homosexual cousin also and their both fine with them

wow tehresa that was somthing a ignorant bigot would say besides it should be comon sense to know that there is no such thing as NORMAL and what you said could be quite hurtful to some people

Answer 1

There is a common saying in the church of “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” We are all sinners in one way or another. Homosexuals are deeply hurt by a society that treats them as outcasts if not perverts. We have no right to be harsh with homosexuals as such an attitude is contrary to Christ's spirit. We must welcome and love their homosexual children who need us as parents and friends so much and so often feel rejected. They should concentrate their attention on the person of their children rather than on their homosexual orientation ... "They are always our children!"

Answer 2

Well - your Mum could have screamed at you, yelled, called you a sinner, etc, as it no doubt hurts her, but she seems to be doing exactly as Jesus would probably have instructed her to do - which is to act with love and not to condem or judge.

This is not to say she should be comfortable with it, as she also believes that homosexuality is wrong, and of course she wants what is best for her son/daughter.

To answer your question - I would probably react in much the same way as her. She's not going to boot you out of her life, but shes not going to pretend that homosexuality is ok by God either.

Answer 3

I would not shun them. It wold not keep me from loving them. I would still talk with them, I would show them that God loves them, but does not accept their lifestyles. Homosexuality is not an alternative lifestyle. I would still introduce them as my son or daughter, and stand up for them if mistreated because of such. and go to the point of giving my life up for them if necessary

Answer 4

This is actually something I've thought about often, and truthfully, I don't know.
However, my niece was bisexual, and when she told me, this is pretty close to what I said (she was only fifteen or sixteen at the time):
"It's your choice, but let me give you a piece of advice: Wait until you're at least 21 to act on it. If you haven't changed your mind by then, you probably won't. And if you don't, I still love you."
I'm pretty sure that's what I would say to my kids also. I hope so anyway.
Truthfully? I hope I'm never put in that position. My husband said he would kick them out (and he's NOT a Christian!).

Answer 5

pray for them.when i told my mum i was a homo she did alot of praying. knowing the truth in the bible, i was willing to change and now i am totally delivered and very conscious of the fact that being a homosexual is not natural and can be reversed. if i could change so can all those people out there; that is God's will. homosexuality is a sin!

Answer 6

"...she seemed fine with it but I can tell..."
That says more about you than it does about her. I am a mother with three grown sons. One of them did question his sexuality at one point in his life. He was also anti-religion, and I am a full-out, gung-ho Christian. But the one thing my sons know beyond all else is that I love them unconditionally. That is why my son was able to come to me with his questions. No, I did not persuade him that he was not gay. I gave him the loving assurance he needed to fully explore his feelings and motivations, and to reach his own conclusions.
Trust and know that your mother loves you unconditionally. She may not like or approve of everything you do in your life, but 'things' will never be able to erase her love for you.
For that matter, they will never be able to erase God's love for you, either. He will love you all your life, no matter what. Can a loving God send people to hell? No. But He will not stop them from sending themselves there.
God bless you and keep you. I pray for you and your mom. Love, in Christ

Answer 7

I was gay before I got saved 7 years ago.

Your mom seems to have handled it well, and it must be very very difficult for her. With me, my mom was wise and just loved me and prayed for me.

Jesus loves all gay people too, but they will not have everlasting life with Him in heaven because God did not create people to have sex with the same sex.

If I were in your mom's circumstances, I would try my best to act like Jesus who would love you but hate your behaviour.

My friend, the Lord will bring you to Him.

Be blessed, He loves you so very very much.

Answer 8

If my son did come out and said he was gay, then yes I would show him what God says. I would still love him but would not accept him being gay. I would pray hard and place him into God's hands.

Answer 9

Their choice, support them and be happy for them.
I wouldn't try to change anybody, wouldn't shun them.

How i would handle the situation: try to make them feel as comfortable and safe in society as possible.

Answer 10

There is something called counseling. In this case the family should stick together & go see a specialized doctor. ( psychiatric) after a rehabilitation they become normal people.