I'd sex wit my bf after2yrs of lov.I trusted him so much and considred him as my husband and sacrificed many things for him.He said he had all kind of diseases& got my sympathy.Later came2 know he was cheat.Every minute he has told a lie to me.He also had relationship with other girls.I stopped all my contacts from him after knowing he was a cheat.but my doubts are,does it mean he din lov me at all?shld i compromise2him and marry him,as i've lost my virginity to him?How can I cheat another person by marrying him when I'm not pure?plzzz help guys and gals?What shld I do?How to make my future life happy by not hurting anyone?
2006-11-29 22:31:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really want true advice and TRUE opinions?
Well the truth is to DUMP the Guy. Okay!! If he's not ready for monogamy and insists that it's okay if he flirts and is unfaithful, then my dear girl, this is not a man worth keeping.
You're probably cringing about your virginity and your affinity with him, thats all nonsense, stop thinking about your virginity, think about your future, with this guy the writing is on the Wall!!.
Trust me, he's not to to relied at all. If a peron trully loves you he will always respect your needs and wishes, and won't disrespect you by continiously lying to you and being unfaithful or sleeping around with others.
Sorry to make you think but ask yourself if a man who has been a liar and a cheat and has to be coerced into being faithful is likely to change. God help you if you end up marrying him then you will be in worse trouble than you are in now!!
Dont even think twice just press the delete button and erase him from you memory, trust me he is not even worth keeping in the Recycle Bin, how does it matter if he loved you or not, what really matters is that he is a LIAR and a CHEAT period.
And dont you worry, there are a lot of good and understanding guys around - You will find a good man who will love you and respect you for what you are.
Good Luck>r
2006-11-29 23:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was cheating on you like that you should not marry him. Once a cheat always a cheat. I've learned that one the hard way. I'm still with the cheat, and miserable.. You may have lost your virginity to him, but that is no reason to stay. You will be able to find another man to make you happy, and you not being a virgin will not be a big deal to a man that really loves you. Go on with you life girl... this guy is not worth your time! You could do so much better than him.. He obviously didnt take your feeling into account when he was with these other girls. If you stay with this guy the only person you'll be hurting is yourself! If he is out there with many girls, he could also give you a sexually transmitted disease..You dont need that! Be safe and stay away from him.. Best of Luck to you!!!
2006-11-29 22:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO don't even think of marrying this guy because it will be nothing but heartache for u... not to mention any diseases he mite have caught or that he mite catch and give to u... Look if he done nothin but cheat and lie to u then he definitley didn't love u he was just saying that to get u to feel sorry for him and give him ur virginity...Look as u will soon realise that most men don't care whether u r a virgin or not aslong as u are a loving, respectful, faithfu, caring etc person they will love u for who u are not for whether u r a virgin or not... Unfortunately u have lost ur virginity now m8 and u can't change that just be the best person u can and some guy will see that and love u for who u r whether u r a virgin or not..... So u won't be hurting or cheating anyone by not being a virgin so don't think that for 1 minute.... and please please don't go back to ur lying cheating scumbag ex he doesn't derserve you....
2006-11-29 22:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should know that you are very special that you waited 2 years to make love to your boyfriend. And if he did not respect you for this, he doesn't deserve you at all. do not marry him, I understat that your virginity was very important, but you will not be happy with him. If he cheated once he will cheat again and again, and you will be really hurt. There are still a lot of good guys out there, and in this day and age no one really expects a girl to be virgin. My advice is that you take some time off from relashionships for a while and do something for yourself. The right guy will come along when you least expect it.
2006-11-29 22:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriela I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly....pleaseeeee do not get back with this guy as he is a total loser.(sorry to say this)
You have sacrificed a lot for him and he shouldnt do the things that he did.
And dear.....just because uve lost ur virginity to him does not mean that u have to marry him. There r other guys who are good and will love u for who u are (even tho u r not a virgin). We're humans. We make mistakes. And we learn from it. Once bitten, twice shy. So dont do the same mistake again by giving him another chance. I believe that u deserve more than what he had given u. Gather ur remaining dignity n pride n just walk away for good.
Please make ur decisions wisely using more of ur mind that ur heart. n i believe u will never regret it.
Which reminds me of a song Trina/Kelly Rowland - Here we go. hehe.
Stay strong sis.
2006-11-29 22:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hey, Riya STOP. While your thoughts about marrying the guy to whom you lost your virginity to are very good but by marrying him after knowing that he is a cheat is you commiting suicide. You were misguided by your emotions/ his sweet words & you had sex with him. Happens. happens to many people many times, but they don't end up marrying that person. 1 night's mistake cannot be paid with by a whole life.
For a minute, remove love from your mind & think with your mind. As for cheating others, marry some guy who has lost his virginity to some other girl. Purity of body even though you think is gone can be re achieved if you faithfully fully love the guy whom you marry.
2006-11-29 22:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probly didn't love you, if he did, he wouldn't have cheated. U dont owe him anything just because u lost ur virginity. When u find the right guy, he'll understand why ur not pure and u can marry him. U made a good move not talking to the cheater.
2006-11-29 22:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about whatever happened with u and your bf. Just start living a new life, be happy and go on. Dont remember anything about your sex. Before marrying another guy or havin a relationship with another, just tell him all about your life. He'll will not get hurt, bcoz he'll feel dat you r a gud human being as u told him abt your past life.
2006-11-29 22:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by || SMI || 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't marry him! If he cheated on you while you were dating, he'll definitely cheat on you when you're married. Many girls these days aren't virgins when they marry, but neither are their husbands. Be honest when you find that special person, and love will be more important than the loss of your virginity. Best of luck!
2006-11-29 22:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear this is a big mistake to lose Ur virginity with some guy but I'm telling don`t marry him cuz u will live in hell with him go to the medical and become a virgin again for me i would marry you if u tell me the Truth .... for example
2006-11-29 22:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by kareem r 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋