my wife and i are seperated and got kids (3 girls ages: 14, 11, 9) My wife and I were pretty young when we had the oldest. we were 20 yrs. old. So needless to say that my wife is still pretty young so she relates real well with them especially the oldest. My wife is a good mother but since we've had our problems she's changed. Her views about things are different she's become more opinionated as well as arguementativeirst thing she did was tell my kids about our problems. I said not to do that. That they are our daughters not her friends! Now she let the oldest have a boyfriend, so she's on the phone all hours of the night. She's always gone. They are starting to get really sarcastic and I feel she's letting them grow up way too fast! The problem is since we're not together right now I really don't know what's going on there. Now she's got the kids looking at me through her eyes so when i see them don't want to yell at them. How do I stop this mad woman from letting them act older?
2006-11-29 22:10:10 · 2 answers · asked by sneaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't yell at them talk to them. You are not going to stop your wife from talking to them so try and balance it out. If they are sarcastic ask them why they said that try to put your point of view.
Although this is a very fine line, never run your wife down to them and never try to get them "on your side"
Children can be manipulated easily which is what your wife is doing. If your children love you with patience they will see without you telling them that maybe mum may not be right.
Just be very careful because this situation is where children can be emotionally abused and then they grow up with emotional problems themselves
2006-11-29 23:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your lawyer about this. You have rights too.
2006-11-30 06:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋