I was stuck in a relationship with a guy who seemed very nice at first but then turned aout to be quiet violent and not very stable minded. i could not get out of the relationship because he was very contolling and was always around me so i couldnt run away from him. He finally turnt around and told me he didnt want to be wth me so more so obviously i was very relived. After he ditched me he kept sending me emails saying he was depressed and couldnt think straight bout what he was doing. He kept doing little things like this to get my attention and i ignored it because no way was i going to get back in a relationship with this man!!!!!!!
Because i have ignored him he keeps getting his friends to come up to me and shout abuse at me when i am on my way to work in the mornings i am so scared and dunno what to do?????? I am not going to get in touch with him to ask him to stop cause thats what he wants!!!!!!!
2006-11-29 22:02:15 · 26 answers · asked by CHAZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the police, video these folk when they do it and show them the footage and the emails. It is harrassment. Take another route to work for a while or get someone to accompany you.
What a prick.
2006-11-29 22:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by rondavous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to start this because there are so many things you can do. The bad side is that there are a lot of good things to do that would cause this guy to act worst. The protection order is a good ideal but can cause some men to get worst. Telling the police is good also but nine times out of ten depending on the state you are in, they will not arrest him unless they see marks he has placed on you. The one thing I will tell you to do is let your family know what is going on, then change up your schedule so his friends want be able to come in contact with you. Changing your
schedule would be like not going the same way to work everyday, leaving a little earlier to go to work, and pray. The thing is he knows your schedule from being with you now you have to change it, but make sure you keep in touch with your family often. Hopefully, after awhile he will stop bothering you. It will take some time for this to actually work so be patience and pray. I went through a domestic violence stiuation and I was granted a protection of order and had to go to a support group class. I'm telling you I have gone through some stuff with this situation. This is how I know about the protection order situation. There are some things that the support group teach women in these type of situations.
2006-11-30 10:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by T. S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say from experience that it is highly recommended that you go to your local courthouse and file a civil protection order "restraining order" on this "nice psyco" guy and individually name and include his friends, your work, home, etc... Don't wait until the situation "gets worse" in your opinion as your opinion may be clouded because of familiarity with this jerk. If he then persists he can be arrested and dealt with legally as a CPO is a Court Order and not to be taken lightly. When he knows you mean business when you say leave me alone, believe me he WILL find someone else to control -- they always do. I also agree with taking a different route to and from work, and not staying in your normal "routine" for a while. Video is always of value as well. As far as harrassing emails, take them to the police -- threatening emails are against the law. Good Luck and STAY SAFE!!!
2006-11-30 06:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is counted as abuse and harrassment and should be reported to the police. They will take a statement from you and then they will verbally caution him. If it still carries on he will be arrested and an injunction will be placed on him to keep him well away from you.
I have seen a lot of these cases and believe me it is not pleasant. Go to the police and email me after to let me know what they said. I used to be a police officer.
2006-11-30 06:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to be able to advise you to go down the legal channels, but as an ex copper, I know this would be a lengthy, painful, expensive and probably inaffective method to deal with this problem. The best thing you can do is get a big hardass boyfriend who is willing to bang a few skulls together for you, but not yours - obviously.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 06:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really weird - if he's convincing his friends to come and abuse you verbally too he must be saying something quite nasty about you.
Sorry to say but to make life simple you should go to the police and get them to pay him a visit. Hopefully it'll put things in perspective for him. Alternatively find a friendly bouncer and pay him to "have a word".
Good luck
2006-11-30 06:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try a friendly neighbour, or ask a friend to stay over and walk you to walk.
His friends are using psychological violence against you.
Check for support groups there is
http://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk
If you're scared ask the police to advise you. If he had a key change the lock, change your email address, change your phone number or get his barred. Lock up the house well and stay strong. You're doing really well to ignore it. Good luck.
2006-11-30 06:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First... If you are under 18... Tell your parents. After that contact the local authorities. Get a restraining order on him and his friends. Keep ignoring him and his friends. Do not give him what he wants... It will only make things worse.
2006-11-30 06:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by wack2mack 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, inform the authorities, and if possible, get someone to video tape the abuse from his friends. This is not only evidence of conspiracy, but may be useful in a future law suit.
2006-11-30 06:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, file a report and get a restraining order against him and his friends. If any of them violate the order, have them arrested.
You don't have to go through this abuse.
2006-11-30 06:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋