2006-11-29 21:55:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he was very drunk at the time,that he is sorry and he still loves me.
2006-11-29 22:01:54 · update #1
Oh he totally confessed three weeks after the event, he said he was really upset and ashamed at what he'd done and had no idea how to tell me.
2006-11-30 06:52:21 · update #2
Get rid !!! they do it once they will do it again!!!! am sorry sweetie but they dont change
2006-11-29 21:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderweb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive him. Yes, it would hurt, and I have been there, but sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and move on with things. I am guessing that you love him, and that is why you are asking the question. I forgave my boyfriend because either way I didn't want to be resentful towards him and harbour bad feeling whatever the outcome. We did break up eventually, not over that but a separate issue and I know that the time that we had together after resolving what happened meant a lot to both of us and I still see him as a dear friend. However, a point to note, you need to actually forgive him properly for that to work. Just pretending and in reality resenting him won't help.
2006-11-29 23:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by KatieG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(5 years) How did you find out? Did he feel so bad after doing this that he admitted it or did you catch him doing it? If he admitted it because of the guilt and not because he was pressured into telling you then he may be telling you the truth. If he was caught and/or knew you would find out then it's all together a different story. Then he's been doing it for a long time and has gotten away with it. If you do stay with him then embarrass the hell out of him by making him do what he should be doing already and getting tested for STDs. Remember though if you do stay that it's your choice and it really shouldn't be thrown in his face every time there is and argument between the 2 of you. If that is going to happen you might as well leave asap
Good Luck
2006-11-30 03:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Wisco Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a matter of fact, the damage had been done. If the man really loves you, sure there is a special place of you in his heart and he made a huge mistake, he broke the trust. Look into your heart, can you trust him again? Is he willing to change and won't let that happen again? It's all on you whether you can let it go and give him a second chance or leave him and move on.
Only you can answer this question yourself. Don't make yourself regret.
Good Luck.
Peace
2006-11-29 22:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be severely upset and would leave him. I am upfront in the beginning of the relationship. Any cheating and you are out the door. I don't care when it is. Some people are able to give second chances and I have done so in the past, and they keep doing it. I kept getting hurt. I don't allow the second hurt anymore. One chance is all they get. It broke my trust and my heart and took me a long time to heal. They don't get any more chances to break my heart the second time. If you decide to continue with the relationship, I would seek counseling and he would have to let you vent whenever you feel the urge. He cannot expect the hurt to go away overnight. He will have to expect the questions like, "Where will you be tonight?". I am so sorry that happened to you, if this is you. I know how you are feeling. Hugs to you and whatever your decision.
2006-11-29 22:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him lots of questions. He's been a dick so the least you can get is some satisfaction from making him squirm a bit. Even if you decide not to carry on.
He may have made a mistake - yes its the worst but you just need to keepo asking why until he gets to the root cause of the problem. Once you're there then you'll understand what you need to do.
(Not that I've ever had a bf you understand!)
2006-11-29 22:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, and you can't paint everyone with the same brush, but my partner of then 5 years didn't have a complete one night stand, but got drunk and went too far, then I became obsessive and jealous, expecting him to do it again. We still got married after ten years, but by year 14 he had wandered off. Leopard and spots maybe. Good luck, he may be genuine and was just confused.
2006-11-29 22:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, what a situation. I think if my boyfriend did that I'm not sure if I could live with it. I think I would probably try, but for me the trust would be gone and I'd probably be wondering if it had happened more than once. I think you deserve better, but if you really love him then it'll be hard to let go. Can you live with the fact he cheated?
2006-11-29 22:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Ellie, been there done it darlin. This decision is truly your own. You need to decide if it was a one off. I.e do you believe him? can you trust him? is it totally out of character for him? if you can answer yes to these questions and you totally believe your relationship is worth fighting for then fight for it. If he does it again GET RID. Once is a mistake twice is taking the p**s good luck hunni xx
2006-11-29 22:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by bubblesbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will do it again, if he was happy he wouldnt have done it, if you had a strong relationship he would have talk things over with that were making him unhappy, id dump him, id also go and have hiv test just incase, just shows how much he values u and ur so called relationship
he says he was drunk, and??? its just an excuse
2006-11-29 22:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by a m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him- you don't deserve a loose man. If he can't control his drinking then he's a weakling. Phone him tonight and tell him it's over. He's not Adam, you're not Eve; there's more men out there!
2006-11-29 22:39:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋